Why is my cat so uncomfortable around people?

This is my girl Sami.  She is a 3-year-old Snowshoe/Siamese mix.  

My question is:

Why is she so uncomfortable around people?  She is a very "nervous Nellie".  She wouldn't let me touch her for at least the first year I had her and she still has too many moments when she'll run from me.  She still gets visibly nervous/afraid when she hears a strange voice and hides from strangers. I've never had a cat with so much anxiety/fear.  I feel like it's beyond the normal.

It's taken her so long to come as far as she has.  Please help me to make her life much happier.

ANSWER:  

When I tuned in to Sami I asked her why she was so jumpy.  She told me she couldn't hear very well and so she didn't know when mom was coming around her.  Loud noises scare her because she can hear them and she can't tell where they are coming from.  I explained to her that mom always has her back and will always protect her so she has nothing to worry about, nothing to fear.  My suggestion to Sami's mom is to speak with her telepathically, in your thinking voice, as she will hear you and understand you perfectly. Now listening to you, like a child, is another story!

What does my parakeet think of living here with us?

The winner of the newsletter question contest has a 10 year old parakeet named Pulsipher.  She works with a parakeet rescue group and her question for him is...

"What do you think of living here with us?"

Pulsipher is thankful to have a caring family, he has all the comforts a bird could ask for.  He just wonders why there are so many birds coming and going - his concerned was that he would be the next one "going".  I explained to him that his family cares for birds that are in between loving homes and assured him that this is his forever home. I felt a sign of relief from Pulsipher.

Working with rescues and fostering animals is such a loving way to help those animals looking for their forever home.  Fostering takes a special kind of heart...my heart wants to take them all in...unfortunately my two cats Harmony and Itty Bitty have set their boundaries in my little condo. 

How do I keep my pets calm during the holidays?

1)       My cat goes crazy when we have lots of people at our home.  With the holidays coming up we plan on family gatherings – what can I do to avoid her getting so upset?

Animals pick up on the energy of the people around them – if they don’t know the people, they may become protective – of you and their “home”.  If you can,  separate them in a separate room, with their favorite toys, bed, food, water – or in a quarantined area where they are not exposed to the crowds.  Talk to them before the event letting them know people will be coming over and “you” will be in a nice separate area with “your” favorite things. “ Nobody will hurt us or our home so you don’t have to worry about protecting us – they are our friends.”  Reassure the pet in a calm voice, assuring them the company will be leaving and your home will return to normal.

2)      I am going away for the holidays and have to leave my dog at a kennel for a week.  I feel so guilty, what can I do for her while I am gone? 

Great question – pets can have abandonment issues – especially when they are rescues .  They are anxious if you are coming back, when you are coming back.  The night before you are going to bring them to the kennel, sleep in an old t-shirt or nightgown, don’t wash it so it has your scent on it.  Bring this item with you to be placed in the kennel with their toys, bed, food, water – the regular comforts that have their scent and now yours.  Reassure your pet you will be returning (i.e. in 7 times the sun goes down for 7 days).  They will be staying with their Aunt Susie, playing with other dogs – or whatever the situation is.  Talk to them out loud or in your thinking voice.  You may not hear a response, but they will understand you.

Why is my dog nervous in the car?

The winning question from last month's newsletter: Why is my dog nervous in the car?

A dog who is nervous in the car - and anxious when the owner leaves the house without them. This dog was a rescue who was "left" somewhere and the family never returned for him. Be sure to always say where you are going and assure him you will be back (i.e. groomer, daycare, aunt Susie's). When you leave the house always say when you will be back (e.i. to feed you dinner, when the sun goes down). Since they don't know time per se they know when they are feeling hungry, or are visual when it gets dark for understanding the concept of time.

Any questions? Email me at FrancesPetPsychic@gmail.com or call 949-412-9554

Ask a Question to Enter the Contest!

Submit one specific question about your pet and each month I will select one winner and answer the question in the next posting. To enter, please provide your pet's name, photo, breed/type of pet, age (or crossed over) and your question. The more specific the question, the more specific the answer (i.e. if you ask if Puppy is happy – the answer could very well be “yes”). The winning question and answer will be posted in the next email newsletter. Let me know what you would like to know about animal communication or animal behaviors – general questions I can address in future issues. I hope you enjoy my information and share it with your friends and family.