Friday, March 15, 2024

Looking on the Sunny Side!



When I look out my window I view the desert mountains, palm trees, and the sun peering from behind those cottony looking clouds. It’s a beautiful mid-70s and I am just so blessed to be able to share with you how happy and fulfilled my life working with you and the animals makes me feel. Never in my wildest dreams did I ever picture myself in the beauty of the desert, driving with the views that I see – just going to the market. Stunning, that’s all I can say.

The simple life here for me is stress free – like the animals that speak to me. They don’t have to worry about the day-to-day work, putting food on the table, getting kids off to school on time, driving in the traffic to get to work, having the report done on time to satisfy the boss’ demands – yikes, they have it so easy. That is, the ones that are lucky enough to have pet parents like us. They always have food in their bowls, fresh water (except when the kibbles jump into the bowl), a cleanish litter box (yeah, I’m not the greatest at keeping it spotless) and a lap to snuggle on or nearby. One of my favorite things about my cats is how independent they are. They are sisters and like night and day in personalities, idiosyncrasies, likes and dislikes. Sage is the bigger, normal size cat and Ollie was the runt of the litter, so she is half of Sage’s size and a bit clumsy as well. Sage is my morning greeter as soon as my eyes flutter open – she comes to my face, and I feel her breath with my eyes still closed. I rub her face and belly, she purrs and starts my day, time to get up. The reverse happens when it is bedtime with her requiring (she’s trained me well) the face and belly rub before I am to go to sleep. Ollie on the other hand is very independent, so in the morning when I make a move, she is immediately off the bed. She waits for her canned food in the morning and during the day follows the sun. She goes from slider to slider, room to room, leaning on the glass or sitting in the sunspot wherever she can find it. Yesterday she surprised me by sitting on the headboard in the guest room in the one sunspot from the small window in the high ceiling. She knows how to find the sunny spot wherever she can find it. I like the metaphor – how about you?

For the Love of Animals,

Frances



 

Saturday, February 10, 2024

💖 Love From A Grateful Client 💖


My client W, contacted me regarding her two 11+ years old cats – siblings Stuart and Sheldon. She and her partner P were overwhelmed by grief as two months ago Stuart became sick and never made it back home from the vet’s visit. Sheldon had been crying pretty much non-stop, missing Stuart so much. I have found my clients have their pets’ photos on their phone, computer and all around the home. My suggestion is to ease the length of the grieving and continual impact. For example, every time the phone rings the deceased pet’s picture glares in front of them. I relate this to a record turning and the needle digs in and digs in a little more each time. (I know – I’m dating myself for those who remember records.) My client sent me this email one week after our session and gave me permission to share it with you, my readers.

Re: Telephone Consult

Client: "Dear Frances, I hope this email finds you in good health and warm!!
I had to reach out to give you an update on our household since your intervention on 01/07/2024. As soon as we said goodbye and the call ended, I immediately changed the picture icon of Stu and Sheldon I’ve used to access YOUTUBETV at the front door.
Of course, I still “see” Stu & Sheldon at the door, but I did find the new icon I selected to be calming. I also rearranged the memory area in the kitchen which provided Sheldon with access to overhang counter top. He was again walking that counter later that evening!

Frances: I realized the crying from Sheldon was not only missing Stuart, but he wanted to speak to someone telepathically like he did with his brother as he was losing his hearing.

My client confirmed she wore hearing aids and I do find our pets take on many of our body’s weaknesses and illnesses. I instructed my client to speak to him in her thinking voice. She may not hear what he had to say back to her as I do, but it comforted him nonetheless.

Client: I also began to communicate with Sheldon telepathically within 30 minutes of the end of the phone call. I’m improving with each day I do see Sheldon responding to my “mind voice”. P is using the technique, too. In fact, she went on your website and purchased your online pet communicator class!

The greatest improvement has been Sheldon! We can’t believe the change that has occurred! He was so quiet and calm. He entered the office (that’s where our conversation occurred) after the call ended and sat in the doorway, looking back and forward between P and me. He approached me, rubbing his face and head on the legs, looking up at me without any vocalization! He then walked to P and the same interaction occurred!

We have determined that Sheldon’s crying/vocalization has been reduced by 80-90%!! It is amazing!!! You are amazing!!! The talk you had with Sheldon really changed the course of his interactions with us! I truly believe he has been relieved of the overwhelming duty and responsibility of managing all of our grief and I think at the
determent to his grief!

I cannot express the relief I have felt since the burden was lifted from me after hearing from Stu and that he was happy I made the decision I did. Two nights before I was to take him in to the vet to have an abdominal tap to withdraw fluid, we were in bed and I was talking to him. As I petted and stroked him, I promised him I would not prolong his life to make me happy. And that he could trust me. That’s when I decided the vet visit wasn’t for tapping his abdomen. As a RN, I knew the signs & symptoms of an endless treatment without cure. I told him my decision and we slept soundly.

Your special talent is amazing and the transformation of the entire household has been likewise amazing. I waited to contact you with the success to ensure the changes weren’t transient. Well, we believe the changes are permanent and we are so grateful for meeting you 10 years ago and your extraordinary talent.

We have told friends and family who have pets about your abilities. In fact, one of our friends has a parrot that has been with her for 31 years! The parrot is not doing well and I thought she might appreciate using your talents. She is seriously considering the offer.

Thank you so much!

Health and peace to you,
W & P, Sheldon and Stuart

For the Love of Animals,

Frances 

Wednesday, January 10, 2024

Starting Anew – Being Grateful for You


Starting Anew – Being Grateful for You

With the start of the new year, I am grateful for my clients both past and present.  I am so surprised when after many years have passed, my clients reappear with new and grateful pets that they have rescued and brought into their family.

Rescued animals start anew when they come to a new home. They don’t know where they are or how long they are going to stay. When I tell them this is their forever home, they are so relieved.  They are so grateful to have food in their stomachs, a roof over their head and the warmth of a loving home.  They have memories of days past, so good and some not so good.  I assure them that their new mom or dad loves them very much and are so happy to have them join their family home.  When they first come to a new home, they are unsure of the situation, the rules of the home and what is expected of them.  From past experiences, they may act in an odd way that seems out of place.  They tell me it is what their first mom wanted from them, so they didn’t think it was odd at all.  I let them know that their new mom would rather that they not do this behavior, but to do something specifically different so they know what is expected of them.  Once explained the “what” and “why” it makes sense to them and how in their new life they can please their new mom (or dad).  They are just truly happy to have a safe and healthy home to live in for the rest of their lives. 

Blessings to you and your family (furry, feathered, two-legged or four) in the new year and talk with you again soon.


For the Love of Animals, 


Frances

 

Saturday, December 9, 2023

Resolve Issues with Love, Not Fighting

 



Hanson is a 2-1/2-year-old rescued Pug, who is blind in one eye and both of his ears are torn.  My client has had him since he was about 1 year old.  He has leash aggression but loves people and is fine off-leash. They had 3 cats before adopting Hanson and after some time, seems to be adjusting fine with them.  They say he is housebroken but continues to pee in the bedroom and office.  So, what is going on with Hanson?

Frances:  Hi Hanson – how are you?

Hanson:   I’m ok, why?

Frances:  Your mom asked me to talk with you, is that ok?

Hanson:  I guess so.  Oh, oh, what did I do wrong now? 

Frances:  Why do you think you did anything wrong? 

Hanson: Well, I know they get mad when I pee in the house, is that it?

Frances:  Now that you mention it, why do you pee in the house?

Hanson:  I guess for a couple of reasons.  First, I like getting everyone’s attention and second, it’s cold and wet out sometimes but it’s warm inside.

Frances:  Isn’t it nice to have a warm house that doesn’t smell like pee?  Is that any way to show how grateful you are for your mom and dad bringing you into their home?

Hanson:  Wow when you put it like that, I suppose I have been kind of a brat, haven’t I? 

Frances:   Yes, I would say so.  Do you know this is your forever home?

Hanson:  I hoped it would be, but I wasn’t sure.  Thank you for telling me that.  I guess I really should be nicer to them and not pee inside the house.

Frances:  Yes, I’m sure they would appreciate that very much.  When you are out on a walk, why are you so aggressive while on the leash?

Hanson:  I want everyone to stay away from my people – they need to know I will fight them off – all of them.

Frances:  In the place you were at before did you have to fight everyone off?

Hanson:  Yes, and I might be small, but I can fight pretty tough. 

Frances:  I’m sorry you had to fight for yourself before you came to this loving home.  They prefer to resolve issues with love, not fighting.  Can you consider that the other dogs and people are friends first, instead of enemies?

Hanson:  I never thought about it that way before.  I thought everyone was an enemy first – that’s what I always was taught.  You mean everyone else isn’t an enemy?

Frances:  That’s correct – consider that everyone else is a friend – unless they do something to make you think otherwise.  People, dogs and cats – they are all friends, unless they do something to make you feel uncomfortable like they want to hurt you. Can you try that?)

Hanson:  I suppose I can.  Seems like it would take less energy than always being ready for a fight. 

Frances:  Exactly, you can relax and enjoy your walks instead of being tense and ready to fight.  I think your life will have more joy and fun if you look at life this way.  What do you think?

Hanson:  I think you may be on to something.

Frances:  Good, you can practice by being nice to your housemates – the cats.  Let them be and they will let you be.  Make sense?

Hanson:  Yeah, I think it does.  Wow, what a whole new way of thinking.  Thank you for sharing that with me.

Frances:  You’re very welcome, Hanson.  Is there anything you want to tell your mom and dad?

Hanson:  Thank you for bringing me into your home.  I guess I haven’t been very nice to you in respecting your home.  I will do better.  I may need some reminders now and then.  I really do love you and thank you for all you do for me.  I like the idea of not fighting like I had to before coming to your home.  This lady told me to think of everyone as friends and I never thought like that before.  I think I can do that, too.  I guess that’s all I have to say. 

Frances: Thank you, Hanson.  I will be talking to Mom later today.  Bye for now.

Hanson:   Bye and thank you for talking to me. 

Frances:  My pleasure, Hanson.

To encourage Hanson to pee outside, realizing that the patio is a cold cement, I suggested placing a rug runner that could be hosed down and his feet won’t be cold when he steps outside.

 

For the Love of Animals,
Frances

Sunday, November 19, 2023

💕 Bring a Bit of Love to Their Day❤️

After all the years I have been speaking with the animals, I learned something new from Zeus.

Zeus is an 8-year-old male golden retriever.  My client wanted to know:  Who is leading and/or speaking to him when he takes me on our walks to meet people and see places?

Zeus' Message to his Mom:

When we are out and about each person or pet is generating energy, even if they are not speaking out loud.  This energy can be from their thoughts and feelings, about their life or about their grocery list.  When there is someone that is sad, I like to go to them to help distract them from their sadness and hopefully cheer them up at least for that moment in time.  Many dogs have fears while out walking, especially the smaller ones.  Bigger people and dogs scare them – the people might step on them accidentally and the bigger dogs can be scary and overwhelming.  I try to show the smaller dogs that some of us are very friendly, and we don’t mean any harm – we are just bigger than them.  The smaller dogs tend to be appreciative and seem to carry themselves with a bit more confidence than before we met.  I like to go to elderly people who are by themselves to bring a bit of love to their day.

Frances:  Zeus, you are a wonderful and positive furry buddy, aren’t you?

Zeus: I try to be, I think that’s why I am here with Mom.  She allows me to kind of make my own path when we are out and about.


Frances:  Is there anything you want to tell mom?

Zeus:  Please tell mom I love her so very much.  She is my perfect person to share this life with.  I love and honor her every day.  There is nothing more Mom needs to do for me that she isn’t already doing. 

Frances:  Thank you, Zeus.  I’ll be talking with you and mom soon.  Bye for now.

Zeus:  Bye and thank you for talking with me.  This isn’t something I’ve been able to do, so this is very cool.

Frances:  My pleasure, Zeus.  Talk to you soon.

 
For the Love of Animals,
Frances


 

Friday, October 13, 2023

"My life was a wonderful experience"


My clients were in grief from having lost their sweet Clarence just days before I spoke with them. He was a rescued Pitbull who they loved for 12 years. Choosing to go the holistic route in treatment of a growth on his leg, they were concerned about choices that they had made, and whether they could have done anything else for him.

Frances:  Hi Clarence, how are you now that you have crossed over?

Clarence: I’m adjusting to my new freedom. My spirit is no longer held back by my heavy body. It was my time, and I am so thankful to my mom and dad for all they did for me, both during my lifetime with them and their decisions in my care. They did the most humane treatments, never bowing to the harshness of what could have been my last years. I have met so many other animals here that had to go through the medical versions of treatment, and they do have a harder time understanding why it was necessary. They do know it was their mom and dad who made the choices they thought were best. I know my mom and dad loved me so much they didn’t want me to go through that. I appreciate their approach so much. Please let them know I hear them, their thoughts and prayers for me. I know it is hard that my body is no longer there beside them, but my spirit is as long as they choose for me to be near them. All they have to do is think of me and I will be there. My life with them was a wonderful experience – the best a dog could have ever asked for. Please let them know they did everything right and in the right order. Nothing they did or didn’t do would have changed the outcome as it was my time to go. We have such a short time on this planet that we pack a lot of love and adventure for ourselves and the humans who care for us. Nothing is taken for granted – even the experience of rescue is meant as a lesson for the rescuer and the one who is rescued. One’s heart can be opened so much more than we can ever dream and know that my spirit will always be carried in your heart. From my heart to your heart – I will love you forever. Be kind to yourself in your grief and know that I am at peace.

Frances:  Thank you, Clarence for your beautiful message for your mom and dad.

Clarence: Thank you for giving us animals the opportunity to share our thoughts and for the last words of wisdom.

Frances:  My pleasure, Clarence. I will be speaking with Mom and Dad soon. Bye for now.

 Clarence:  Bye.

For the Love of Animals,
Frances


 

Monday, September 18, 2023

"My Spirit is Light and Happy"

 

My client contacted me regarding her elderly parents’ dog Minnie, a 15 year old rednose Pitbull. They were planning to have her put down the next day. Minnie is her dad's world, but she has gotten to the point that she has many health issues and can no longer get up on her own. She is too big for her dad to pick up anymore and they feel it is time but need to hear some heartfelt words from Minnie.


Frances:  Hi Minnie – I understand you are not feeling well and it’s hard on your mom and dad.

Minnie:  Yeah, I know.  They are having a hard time letting go and please let them know I am ready to go.  My physical body is ready to leave – it’s so heavy for me to carry around. My spirit is so light and happy to be able to be released.  Please tell them I love them so much and appreciate all they have ever done for me.  I will love them forever and always be in their hearts.  If they want to spread my ashes in our regular walking path or in the ocean or on a mountain top – it doesn’t really matter to me.  It’s very symbolic, but not really necessary as I will always be there as they grieve.  I will hear them and see them so they can talk to me any time they like.  I won’t be there to eat the food and make a mess for them to clean up, but they have those memories to last a lifetime!  Just trying to make them laugh a little bit.  I will not be upset if they decide to adopt another rescue pet when they are ready.  They have so much love to give to another animal that is so desperate for a home – a loving and caring home.  I will forever love them and please tell them they are doing the right thing.  They can sleep well without feeling any guilt as I am ready to go.  Thank you for doing this for them – I really appreciate your work with us animals.

Frances:  My pleasure Minnie – safe travels.

P.S. I spoke to my client, and she thanked me for the message – she knew exactly the path in the backyard where the ashes will be spread.


For the Love of Animals,
Frances