Bucky Smells the Roses

Bucky Smells the Roses

Since his dad passed, Bucky has become much more aggressive toward other dogs and people.  His mom asked me to have a chat with him to find out what was going on with him.   #AnimalCommunication 

Bucky, a Jack Russell/Chihuahua mix, was adopted by my client and her husband 7 years ago when he was about 3 years old. Four years ago, as her husband’s health declined, he and Bucky became very close.  Since her husband’s passing, Bucky has become much more aggressive toward other dogs and people.

Here’s a bit of our session:

Frances:  Hi Bucky – how are you?  

Bucky:  I’m ok, why?

Frances:  Your mom asked me to talk with you, is that ok?

Bucky:  Yeah, sure, anything for Mom – she’s so good to me.  I miss my dad, but I think she does too.

Frances:  Yes, she does – and thank you for stepping up when he passed.  She needed you as much as you needed her.  Why do you bark so much when you see or hear other animals?
 
Bucky:  I'm protecting her.  You know, get them before they get you.

Frances:  I see.  How about seeing them as friends first unless they show you otherwise?  You can relax on your walks instead of being on guard and ready to attack?

Bucky: I never thought of it that way.  I thought it was my job to protect her.

Frances:   Well, it is your job to protect her when there is danger.  During your walks other friendly people walk their friendly dogs so there is no danger.  No need to bark at them.

Bucky: Oh, I see what you are saying.  It would be nice to relax and just smell everything without concern of the others around us, unless I see danger, right? 

Frances:  Yes, that is right.  Only when you see a danger can you bark.

Bucky: OK, I think I can try that the next time we are out walking.

Frances:  And stay by mom’s side as much as possible.

Bucky: Oh ok, I will try that too.  That’s a lot to remember.

Frances:  Your mom can remind you on your walks so you don’t forget.  

Bucky: OK, that will help.

Frances:  Good that will help mom too.  Why do you bite the heels of anyone wearing boots?

 Bucky: The first people I lived with wore boots and they would step on me all the time.

Frances:  Did they ride horses?
 
Bucky:  Yeah, those big animals they rode and didn’t care about me, so I ran off when they weren’t looking.  They didn’t care about me at all.

Frances:  Please don’t bite the heels of the people that come to see Mom.  They are not going to hurt you or Mom.  They are friendly and Mom would never let them take you.   This is your forever home and Mom loves you very much.
  
Bucky: Thank you for telling me that.  I just wasn’t sure if Mom would get tired of me and give me away.  

Frances:  Honey, mom would never do that to you, I promise.  

Bucky:  Oh, that makes me happy and relieved.  I really wasn’t sure after Dad left us if she really wanted to keep me or not.  

Frances:  Mom loves you and like I said earlier she needs you as much as you need her.

Bucky:  Thank you, I just needed to hear it again.  

Frances:  You’re welcome, Bucky.  What do you think about Mom getting a cat?

Bucky:  Why would she want to do that?  Am I not good enough?  

Frances:  Yes, of course you are.  Cats tend to be more cuddly and soft and sometimes we humans need that too in a companion.
 
Bucky:  Oh, well let me think about it more and I’ll get back to you. 

Frances:  Ok, I’ll be talking to mom soon.  Bye for now.  

Bucky:  Bye and thank you for talking with me.  

Frances:  You’re very welcome, Bucky.

For the Love of Animals,

Frances

 

Velma Learns to Chill

Velma is a 5-year-old female Doberman who has been part of her family since she was 14 weeks old.  Her mom was concerned about her aggressive behavior towards other animals, both on TV and during their walks.

Frances: Hi Velma – how are you?
Velma:  I’m good.
Frances: Mom asked me to talk with you, is that ok?   
Velma: Sure, anything for Mom.   
Frances: Why do you bark and get stressed when you see animals on TV? 
Velma:  I am telling them not to come in.  I’m protecting Mom.
Frances: I see.  The TV is just like a picture on the wall only it moves.  The animals or people you see can’t come out of the square frame.  It’s like a picture on the wall. You don’t need to stress and be concerned for your mom – they can’t come out of the frame.  Does that make sense?  
Velma:  Oh, I’m so glad you told me that.  I was really concerned when I saw people hurting each other, too.
Frances: I’m glad I could help you relax more while watching TV – it’s just like a moving picture on the wall. Why do you bark and act aggressively when you see dogs on your walks?  
Velma: I’m protecting Mom from the other dogs.
Frances: What if the other dogs were friendly? They are walking with their moms and dads, too.  There is no threat to anyone when you are walking with your mom.  Your actions create fear in others that is unnecessary.  How about walking next to Mom and pretending everyone is a friend, unless they show you otherwise? 
Velma:  Oh, I never thought about it like that.  I was always in protection mode.  You mean I can just walk regularly and not try to scare anyone?
Frances: Yes, that’s exactly what I am saying.  You can be a kind and friendly Velma, not the aggressive, scary Velma and even relax and enjoy your walks.  How does that feel?
Velma: That feels kind of different, but I think I could get used to it.  It takes a lot of energy being the scary one, you know?
Frances: Yes, I do understand.  So now you can relax and enjoy your walks, and Mom will enjoy them more too.

For the Love of Animals,

Frances

 

A Perch in the Window

Jim is a big 10-year-old ginger male tabby who was a big morning talker.  His housemate, Dell, was a 5-year-old small female calico who disappeared about a year ago.  Jim’s mom was wondering if he was lonely and would welcome a new friend.

Frances:  Hi Jim – how are you?

Jim:  I’m ok, why?

Frances:  Mom asked me to talk with you, is that ok?

Jim:  Sure, why not?

Frances:  Great. Why do you talk a lot in the morning?

Jim:  I’m trying to tell Mom about my dreams – dreams I had that night and dreams for the future, lots and lots of dreams.

Frances:  Well, you are welcome to tell me about some of your dreams if you like.

Jim:  Oh, cool – uh, ok.  Let’s see.  I want to live in a castle in the sky, have all the food and birds to play with and my mom will be the queen of the sky.

Frances:  Well, that is quite the picture of dreams.  How about your dreams here on earth?  Would you like to have a companion? 

Jim:  Naw, I’m ok being the only cat now.  I’ve gotten used to having all the attention for myself. I don’t have to share my food or toys or windows or anything for that matter. 

Frances:  Were you and Dell friends?

Jim:  Not really friends but we tolerated each other.  Dell liked to do more exploring than me.  I guess that’s why she isn’t here anymore.  Just tried to go too far, and an animal bigger than her took her away.

Frances:  Is that what she told you after she was in spirit?

Jim:  Yeah, she came back to warn me not to do what she did.

 Frances:  That was kind of her to warn you.

Jim:  Yeah, she was a good girl, we were just different.

Frances:  Jim, would you like to tell your mom anything?

Jim:  Please tell Mom I love her very much and all that she does for me.  I do like watching the birds outside, so can I have a perch by the window?

For the Love of Animals,

Frances

 

Lillie's Furever Home

While sharing a tea with my neighbor Teri, she mentioned our other neighbor Rebecca had recently (last Saturday and this was only Tuesday) adopted a dog from the local rescue shelter. She mentioned the dog was afraid and she wasn’t eating or drinking so Rebecca was really concerned about the new dog. I asked Teri if she would contact Rebecca. She was closer to her than I and suggest that I come over and speak with Lillie, the new dog. Rebecca was thrilled. She texted me and the next morning I went to see her new adopted dog Lillie.

When I arrived I realized she had weaned puppies very recently and was wearing a collar as she had been fixed prior to her adoption as well. I spoke with Lillie telepathically letting her know she was loved and safe and this was her new mommy and her new home. She was so surprised how quiet it was. She’s so used to the barking and yelling and all the stuff that goes on at the shelters. Lillie was moved to multiple shelters before she came to live with her new mom. I told her all the toys, all the food, all the water, even the comfy beds in the living room and the bedroom were all for her. She was so used to sharing. She was afraid she was gonna fight off another one just to be comfortable - poor baby. I did notice her water bowl was quite large so I suggested putting a smaller one as she seems to be so overwhelmed with things. The more contained that they can be the more she’ll get used to them. As Rebecca and I were talking, I noticed Lillie was getting more and more comfortable even to the point where she was laying, curled up in her bed with her back to us, not a care in the world. The next day, her mom texted me this: 

Hi Frances! Lillie is doing wonderfully - more relaxed, eating, and drinking her water. Thank you again!!! 

For the Love of Animals,

Frances

 

I am Always With Him in his Heart

 

I recently did a reading for a client who wrote:  

"This will be for my girl, Jessie. She was a beautiful American Eskimo. She came into my life in 2001. We rescued each other. We were together until just before Christmas 2012. She was possibly about 14 when she passed."

 Frances:  Hi Jessie – your dad wants to talk with you.  Is that ok?

Jessie: Of course, anything for Dad, he’s the best.  He was such a good man to me.  I never wanted for anything.  He knew when I was unhappy or in pain.  He did everything right for me.  What was right for him was right for me.  He didn’t have to explain anything to me about any actions he had to take, I understood it was always for our best interest.

Frances:  Thank you, Jessie.  Were you in pain at the end?

Jessie: I had some pain but Dad made sure it was at a minimum.  He always knew and was so good and caring to me.  

Frances:  Are you taking care of someone else now? 

Jessie:  Well, not in the physical world, but from here we can assist many at the same time.  When Dad thinks of me a part of my energy is there with him.  I hear him and I see him. Sometimes I jump on the bed with him so he can feel me with him.  I don’t think he realizes that that is really me with him, not a dream.

Frances:  Oh, I’m sure that will make Dad happy to hear that. Were you concerned about any choices made by Dad?

Jessie: I knew if it was best for Dad, it is best for me.  I just want Dad to be happy.  I know he misses me in the physical sense, but I am always with him in his heart.

Frances:  Is there anything else you want to tell your dad? 

Jessie: Please tell Dad how much I love him and want him to be happy with his life just as it is.  There is nothing more to ask for or prove to anyone.  He is a kind and generous man who just needs to love himself as much as he loves me.  Please take care of yourself and give yourself some treats – not the ones you gave me of course, but you know what I mean.  My beautiful dad, I love you.  

Frances:  Thank you, Jessie for your beautiful message.  

Jessie: Thank you for giving me the opportunity to talk with my dad.

Frances:  My pleasure, Jessie.

For the Love of Animals,

Frances

Why is That Other Cat Here?

Lucas and Simon are both recently rescued male cats.  Lucas has been with his mom for two months and Simon just joined the family two weeks ago.  It seems Lucas is not happy with another cat coming into his new home.  My client wrote:  "I don't know what to do. Tried asking/explaining nicely several times, talking more firmly while holding scruff, spray bottle, smacked his butt once in middle of the night. Separated them last night. Nothing stops him. I give him attention which he loves till he remembers Simon. Then he's off again." Frances's reading with Lucas: Frances:  Hi Lucas – Mom asked me to talk with you, is that ok? Lucas:   I guess so since I’ve got a lot to say.  Why is that other cat here?  Is he replacing me?  Why did she bring him here?  Is he staying?  Frances:  Ok, I hear you, Lucas.  Let me first assure you that you are staying, this is your forever home and Mom loves you very much.  So far so good? Lucas: Yeah, ok – go on. Frances:  When mom adopted you, you needed a home with love, food and a roof over your head, right? Lucas:  Yeah, so? Frances:  Simon, this new cat is in the same situation and Mom wants to add him to your household to be a companion for both you and her.  She realized she is not home for many hours at a time and this way you have someone to keep you company. Lucas:  So he’s not going to leave?  Frances:  No, he has no other place to go and there is so much love and food for the two of you.  Can you be nice and accepting of him instead of the aggression you are showing him?  He doesn’t deserve that.  He just wants to be part of the family.  What if he was first and then you came in to join the family and was treated like this, how would you feel? Lucas:  Well, when you put it that way, yeah I wouldn’t be very happy.  Okay, okay.  I get it. Frances:  So no more aggressive biting, attacking or anything else mean to Simon, right? Lucas:  Yeah, yeah – I’ll be nicer.  Please tell Mom I’m sorry, I’ll be better.  Maybe even share a toy or two.  But I keep my favorites.  Frances:  Thank you, Lucas.  Mom will be happy to see the two of you happy with her in the same room. Lucas:  I’ll see if I can do that for her.  Frances:  Thank you, Lucas.  Mom will be very appreciative. Lucas:  I understand, I will do better, I promise.  Frances:  I hope so because I will bug you again and again – like that voice that doesn’t stop. Lucas:  Wow, ok that’s pretty harsh, but I will, I promise.  Frances:  Again, thank you, Lucas.   My client updated me the next day after our session: "Lucas has been perfect since you and I spoke. Very affectionate and he invites Simon to play instead of forcing him. So far when they play he resists the urge to be too aggressive. I can see him stop and think for a moment, sometimes a result of a gentle word but not always necessary. So grateful and hopeful,  Catherine Darras." Now here’s the picture of Lucas (dark grey stripe tabby) and Simon (orange) sleeping peacefully together. For the Love of Animals, Frances

 

What's With the New Guy?

When bringing another pet into your home it is important to make sure your family is ready for the addition – and that means the pet who has been an only pet for all his life with you. 

My client has a cat named Homer, he is approximately 16 years old and was rescued 10 years ago.  He has been a single pet, although she tried to introduce other cats in the beginning, and he reacted badly. 

Lately she has befriended a cat, whom she named Dusty, who appeared on her hillside, and she’s been feeding him. He is now limping badly and she’s keeping him in a bedroom, separate from Homer. He is being neutered and his leg treated.

Here is my conversation with Homer:

Frances:  Hi Homer – how are you?

Homer:  I’m ok, why?

Frances:  Your mom asked if I would talk with you, is that ok?  

Homer:  Yeah, I suppose so. What about?

Frances:  You know she loves you very much, right?  

Homer:  Yeah, so?

Frances:  So, she would like to bring another cat to join your family.  He is living outside, and it isn’t safe for him due to the coyotes – the big mean dog like animals.  They eat cats and other animals as they don’t have a loving mom like you do.  

Homer:  So why are you telling me this?

Frances:  She would like you to accept the new cat and be kind to him.  There is plenty of food and love for both of you, you know that, right?  

Homer:  Yeah, I get that, but aren’t I enough?

Frances:  Yes, of course you are – you are more than enough.  But there is so much love for more and more kindness to share too.  He needs a safe place to live, and your mom would like you to be kind and accepting to this new cat. 

Homer:  Oh, I suppose so as long as he doesn’t get into my stuff.

Frances:  He’ll have his own stuff, but it would be nice of you to share some stuff.  

Homer:  Yeah, I suppose so.

Frances:  Thank you, Homer.  Would you like to tell your mom anything?  

Homer:  Please tell Mom I love her very much and sorry I’ve been making such a fuss over other animals coming inside.  I guess I was being kind of selfish.  I know what it’s like not having a loving family to care for you.  Thank you for all you do for me, and I guess we’re expanding the family – at least by one more.  I know I’m getting older and won’t be around forever so this might be a good fit to have another be there when it’s my time to go.  Not planning on anytime soon, but you know, thinking ahead as I don’t know when I’ll have this chance to talk to you like this.  

Frances:  Thank you, Homer – I know Mom will appreciate your change of heart.  Bye for now. 

Homer:  Bye and thank you for talking with me.

Frances:  My pleasure, Homer.

For the Love of Animals,

Frances

 

Some Favorite Conversations with the Animals

I recently found a printed copy of a talk I gave in 2011 at the Temple of Light in Lake Forest, CA.  As I read the talk I was reminded of some of my favorite early conversations and lessons while speaking with the animals.

Animals take on things for us such as (emotions, illnesses) and represents aspects or needs in our lives - like the need to receive unconditional love, giving our full attention to them and staying with us until a human love comes into our life, a partner or a baby. Our life changes and their purpose for us has been fulfilled. 

Over the holidays my cat Itty-Bitty Kitty took on an upper respiratory infection, a cold. People all around me were ill with colds, but not me. I had my health, no problem at all. My poor kitty had to be on antibiotics and fluids. I thanked him and let him know he didn’t have to do that in the future. I beefed up my immune system with vitamins.

Animals have feelings and emotions just like humans although they are much more forgiving and most don’t hold grudges. I say most because I asked Buddy a Pitbull terrier why he didn’t like the brown poodle. When he was walked by the house, Buddy barked and barked. I asked what the brown poodle said to him that got him so upset. He replied, “He called me ugly.”

Nala is a female mixed breed adopted only six weeks prior to this phone reading. She was hesitant to be affectionate or receive affection from the family. I asked her why. She told me she didn’t want to get too close since she wouldn’t be staying too long. She thought this was just another foster home, not realizing this was a permanent placement, her forever home. I explained to her that this is her home and the family loves her. My client on the phone started crying saying Nala was coming to her and laid down next to her. She was so happy. Nala was now able to receive affection and was relieved to know this was home. 

Feisty is a female West Highland terrier or (Westie). My client called saying she was throwing up, should she take him to the vet? I asked Feisty what was going on. She told me she was nervous about mom‘s upcoming surgery. My client confirmed she was having knee surgery. This was an outpatient procedure so she’ll be home and have someone over to help her. I related this info to Feisty, feeling relieved, the throwing up stopped.

The animals hear our spoken words and our telepathic thoughts so before you call them unkind names or talk of giving them away, etc. know that they hear, feel and know the meanings and may take those emotional releases as real. Not just your frustration expressed. 

Vader is a male Lhasa Apso. His mom asked me if there was anything he wanted to tell her. He told me he didn’t want her to call him stupid. She said, “But I don’t call him that to his face”. He also didn’t want to be thrown into the pool. She thought he liked it because he barked.  The barking was to tell her to stop. He would go in when he was good and ready. 

Lucky was a 15 year-old Springer Spaniel who is deaf and almost blind. His mom wanted to know if he was ready to go to heaven. He said, “No, the food‘s too good”. I didn’t know that she had special marked meat in the freezer labeled “Lucky” that she cooked for him every day.

I hope you enjoyed my travels down memory lane.

For the Love of Animals,

Frances

 

Raymond Misses his Dads

My client was concerned about his dog Raymond who is a 7-year-old male mini schnauzer mix. His husband passed away three years ago and has been working through his grief.  Throughout the years Raymond has occasionally urinated in the house. However, when my client returned from a recent vacation the occasional urinating had become a constant whenever he would leave him for any amount of time.  He had him medically checked for urinary tract infection, diabetes, kidney function and a complete blood panel. The results were all within normal ranges.

Here is a portion of the initial conversation with Raymond:

Frances:  Hi Raymond – how are you?

Raymond:  I’m ok, I guess.

Frances:  You guess?  What’s going on? 

Raymond:  I guess I’m bored.  I know I have toys, but I want to go outside and play with other dogs.  I want to go to a park with grass.  I like seeing other places, people and dogs.

Frances:  Is that why you are peeing in the house?  Are you mad at Dad for leaving you alone sometimes? 

Raymond:  Not just leaving me, but he doesn’t tell me where he is going and how long he’s going to be away.  Why can’t I go with him?  What’s wrong with me that he can’t take me with him?  I miss playing with my other dad.

Frances:  I’m sorry, Raymond – it’s hard on us when our dads pass away.  Does he ever come to visit?

Raymond: He used to but he stopped coming to visit us.

Frances:  Is that when you started peeing in the house more?

Raymond:   Well, kind of, yeah.  My dad went away and didn’t tell me anything, so I got mad.  Every time he leaves and doesn’t take me, I get mad.  It’s not fair.  What if something happens to him too?  What happens to me?

Frances:  Honey, I’m sorry you are upset with your dad for leaving you.  It scares you that he’s not coming back, right?

Raymond:   Yes, I get really scared I’ll be all alone.

Frances:  Raymond, your dad loves you and will always come back to you.  I will tell him how to tell you where he is going and when he is coming back so you won’t be scared for him to leave the house, ok?)

Raymond: Ok.  I guess I kind of got myself all worked up with worry, didn’t I?

Frances:  Yes, honey, I think you did, but that’s understandable when we get scared, we do things we don’t normally do – like peeing in the house, right?

Raymond:   Yeah.  I’m sorry.  I know it upsets dad.  Please tell him I’m sorry for that, ok?  

Frances:  Yes, honey, I will tell him.  Is there anything else you want to tell him?

Raymond:   Please tell him I love him so much and just get scared when he leaves the house.  Maybe he can take me sometimes?  I’ll be good, I promise.

Frances:  We will talk a bit later this morning.  Bye for now.

Raymond:   Bye and thank you for talking with me.

Frances:  You’re very welcome, Raymond.

During our appointment I shared with my client the way to share his comings and goings – not by hours of the clock, but by the actions of the day (breakfast, lunch, dinner, bedtime) i.e. “I’m going to go to dinner with Joe and I’ll be back before bedtime.”  In the case of overnight or vacation days I describe it as how many times the sun goes down i.e. “I will be going on a vacation and be back 7 times the sun goes down.  Aunt Susie will be staying here to make sure you have food and walks.”

I asked about the timing of the vacation and my client realized that on this trip he had released his grief of the loss of his husband.  His husband stopped coming around, so Raymond no longer was seeing him.  I assured Raymond that he didn’t love him any less, but dad no longer needed his energy to move forward in his life.

Two weeks later I received a follow-up email from my client:  Since our session two weeks ago, I have been using the time techniques you gave me, and there have only been 3 peeing accidents during this time. Thank you and I will keep using them.

For the Love of Animals,

Frances

 

Tattoo Surprise!

Roby is a 15-year-old male Chihuahua who had failing health. My client contacted me to check in with Roby to find out that he was indeed, ready to go. I always have a conversation with the pet before the appointment with my client and I then read the information to the client during the appointment.

In the initial session, Roby told me: “Please let Mom know I am ready to go when she is.  I will always be in her heart and when she thinks of me, I will be there beside her to guide her as the little pup on her shoulder.”   I took that as a metaphorical answer, as a symbol of his love always being with his mom. When we did our Zoom call, I noticed my client was adorned with several tattoos. I asked her if she was thinking about getting a tattoo of Roby on her shoulder. That is exactly what she was planning on doing but didn’t know if he wanted a paw or his picture.

Roby was enthusiastic and said, “Yes, I want my picture on her shoulder". My client replied she knew exactly which picture she would have tattooed on her shoulder. This was a first for me. It was very exciting for me to share both of their wishes, and do the right thing for each other. 

For the Love of Animals,

Frances

Don't Worry - Be Happy!

Patsy is a 14-year-old Havanese female dog who seemed very anxious, generally at night, pacing back and forth.  On car rides with Dad to her physical therapy water treatments for her back leg, she gets very anxious, panting heavily and jumping between seats, making it very unsafe for her dad to drive with her in his lap to calm her down.

Here’s part of our conversation: 

Frances:  Mom and Dad asked if I would talk with you, is that ok?

Patsy:  Sure, anything for mom and dad.  I love them very much.  I know I am getting older; my hearing is gone, and my eyesight is blurry.  I feel ok, I suppose, nothing to complain about, but I do know my time is limited.  I don’t want them to do anything special to extend my life and will do my best to go on my own when the time is right.  Not yet, but you know what I mean.  I’m glad I have this opportunity to tell them how much I have loved our life together.  They are the best mom and dad I could have ever had, especially in my later years – the food is so good!  I get special treatment, and I love it! 

Frances:  Thank you, Patsy.  When you pace in the evenings, what are you wanting from your mom and dad?

Patsy:  I get anxious at night because I am afraid that I won’t wake up in the morning. 

Frances:  What makes you think you won’t wake up in the morning? 

Patsy:  I had a dream not long ago and one of the previous dogs came to say I was going to join him soon.  He didn’t say when, so it just makes me nervous. 

Frances:  Ok, so the dog in the dream said you would be joining him – but until you do, how about just settling in with mom and dad and enjoying their company?  It’s not like you can control it so why pace and worry about it?

Patsy:  Hmm, I get what you’re saying.

Frances:  Just remind yourself to enjoy the moment with mom and dad.  If you start to get anxious, just say to yourself, “I am safe with mom and dad.”) 

Patsy:  Ok, I’ll try that, thank you.

Frances:  You’re very welcome, Patsy.  When mom leaves the house, she goes to work and then she comes home.  She always comes back.  She is safe at work and will be home before dinner.  Dad is there to keep you safe and happy; Mom will come back when she gets off work. Does that make sense?

Patsy:  Yes, it does – I just don’t understand why she has to leave, why can’t she work from home?

Frances:  Her work requires her to physically go to the building of her work.

Patsy:  Oh, ok, I guess she has to go then.


Frances:  Yes, she does. Why do you pant so much when you go on car rides?

Patsy:  I never know where we are going to go, if they are taking me someplace and not picking me up, what if they don’t pick me up?

Frances:  I will make sure Mom and Dad tell you where you are going to ease your mind.  You will always be picked up unless your mom and dad leave you overnight for special care or if they go out of town and can’t take you.

Patsy:  Ok, as long as they tell me, that will help.

Frances:  I realized you can’t hear so I will suggest that they talk to you in their thinking voice, like I am doing right now.  You will be able to hear them, but they may not be able to hear what you are telling them, so don’t get upset if they don’t hear you. 

Patsy:  Oh, ok, that sounds good.

Frances: I will talk with Mom and Dad a bit later this morning, by for now.

Patsy:  Bye and thank you for talking with me.

Frances:  My pleasure Patsy.

During the appointment, for an attitude adjustment before the car ride to therapy, I encouraged Dad to show Patsy to be happy and excited about going to play in the water with her therapist.  At night, to calm her down, ask her (in their thinking voice) to join them in sitting quietly and watching TV.

A week later I received an update from Dad:

Re:  Patsy Update

Hi Frances!

I wanted to update you on Patsy and her progress since we met last.

The panting and walking around in the living room at night is much better. She spends more time with us lying down and relaxing while watching TV. There have been a couple of times she has still gone back to her old behavior but much better. We are trying to send her a picture of her lying down and relaxing with us.

The car ride to the physical therapy place last Wednesday was night and day. I told her this would be a fun car ride, and she could lie down on the blanket (it would be OK and safe) or look out the window like you used to do. She didn’t jump back and forth; she was shaking a little bit, but not like before. She looked out the window a couple of times, and she enjoyed it with a smile on her face. Even the therapist noticed a difference in that she wasn’t as nervous.

So, thank you for helping us talk (quiet voice) to Patsy. I know it is a work in progress. We will keep working on it and keep you posted.

Take Care, 

J and K

For the Love of Animals,
Frances

Ruby Watches Over Mom

My client’s dog Ruby crossed over in July. Her words were very comforting for her mom. Frances:  Hi Ruby – I understand you crossed over in July. How are you doing? Ruby:  Yes, I did. I’m much better now that I don’t need my body to get around.  I watch over Mom when she is sad and worried about me and if she did everything she was supposed to for me.  Please let Mom know I will always love her and tell her not to feel guilty about me and my passing. Everything happened the way it was supposed to.  I was ready to go and I knew it would be easier for her not to have me on her mind when she was supposed to be working. Unlike humans, we kind of know the process for crossing over and see our greeters ahead of time.  Fear is not a part of the process because we know what it will be like when we go.  The most concerning is leaving behind the human that has all those other feelings of guilt, fear and sadness.  I do come to help Mom when she is feeling those feelings and send her loving energy to replace them. Frances:  Mom wants to know if you hated the puppy. Ruby:  I didn’t hate the puppy, I knew it was my time to go and he was my replacement so to speak.  It’s normal not to want to be without a furry companion and I knew he would be there with her when I was gone.   Frances:  Are there signs you are giving Mom so she knows you are there?  Ruby:  Sometimes she feels me in bed with her but she thinks she's imagining it.  It’s me.  I want to give her the comfort of me being there with her. Frances:  Thank you, Ruby. Ruby:  Bye and thank you for doing this for Mom. Frances:  You’re very welcome, Ruby. For the Love of Animals, Frances

 

Buddy Opens Up about His Past

Buddy is a 16-year-old male Westie (West Highland White Terrier) who was adopted in 2021. My clients wanted to know about his former owners and why he needed a new home.

Frances:  Hi Buddy – how are you? 

Buddy:  I’m ok, why?

Frances:  Your mom and dad asked if we could talk, is that ok?
  
Buddy: Sure, why not.

Frances: What was your life like before you came to live with Mom and Dad?
 
Buddy: Before I came here, I lived with an older couple.  They didn’t walk or play much with me, so we did a lot of sitting and watching the thing in the box.

Frances: Is the thing in the box with moving pictures?

Buddy: Yes

Frances: Ok, we call that a television, or TV for short.

Buddy:  Yeah that’s what it was.  They were very nice to me, but it was really loud sometimes.

Frances: I suspect they couldn’t hear very well so they had the volume up.  

Buddy: You’re probably right.  The man went away and didn’t come back and then I found the lady on the floor one morning.  It scared me, so now I follow my mom around to make sure she is ok.  

Frances:   I’m sorry that happened to you.  Unfortunately, as people get older, they sometimes get sick and pass away.  So, you don’t have to worry about your mom – she’s much younger and doing well.  Plus, your dad is there to take care of you too.

Buddy:  You sure?  

Frances: Well, I’m as sure as I can be, but I’ll check in with Mom and Dad when we talk in a little bit.
 
Buddy: Ok, thanks.

Frances: Do you want to spend more time with other dogs, or is it the caregivers at the doggy daycare that you like?  

Buddy: I guess I like people better.  I was never around other dogs much, except the place with the cages, before coming home with Mom and Dad.  

Frances:  Is there any place that you were taken by your previous mom and dad that you would like to go to?  

Buddy: They didn’t take me anywhere except the doctor and the groomer.  Towards the end, the groomer was less and less.  I guess I just know about watching TV.  I would like to be outdoors more and see beyond my own surroundings.

Frances: Is there anything you would like to tell your mom and dad?

Buddy: Please tell them that I love them very much and thank you for bringing me into your home.  I know I’m not your typical dog, but I’m happy just as I am.

Frances: I am glad you are happy Buddy.  I’ll be talking with your mom and dad soon.  Bye for now.

Buddy:  Bye and thank you for talking with me.  

Frances: You’re very welcome, Buddy.
 

For the Love of Animals,
Frances
 

Pillow Talks

Pillow is an 8-year-old female chihuahua mix rescue with whom I recently had the pleasure of speaking. She was a bit confused when I first tuned in. Here’s a portion of our conversation:

Frances:  Hi Pillow – how are you?

Pillow:  I’m ok, why? Am I in trouble?

Frances:  Honey, why would you think you were in trouble? 

Pillow:  I don’t know, but I’m afraid I’ll be taken someplace else like the previous people did. Am I staying?

Frances:  Pillow, you are staying. This is your forever home. Your mom loves you very much, so you have nothing to fear. You have a mom, a home, food and love forever.  How does that feel?

Pillow:  Oh, I am so happy to hear this. Are you sure?

Frances:  Yes, Pillow, I am sure. Can you tell me about your life before you came to live with mom?

Pillow:   First, I was with a family with little people, [kids] and they kept us outside. Little by little each of us left with other people. I was the last one and they kept me for a bit and then they had to leave so they took me to a place where other dogs were. It was ok as I was fed regularly, but not much else. It wasn’t too long before I went to live with Mom.

Frances: Thank you for sharing your life before you met Mom. Do you like your housemates Molly and Rusty?

Pillow:  Yes, they are ok. Are they staying too?

Frances: Yes, honey everyone is staying, just like you.

Pillow:  Oh, I’m so glad, I was afraid to get too close in case anyone had to leave. It hurt so much to get close and then never see them again.

Frances:  Since you have been with Mom, you had a brother who passed away. Do you miss him?

Pillow:  Actually, he still comes around and checks in to be sure we’re all getting along. He was kind of the ruleskeeper and oversaw us all.

Frances:  How do you feel about Mom’s boyfriend, Bob?

Pillow:  He’s ok as long as he keeps mom happy. I just want her to be happy. She takes such good care of us. Why does she have to leave us during the day and sometimes at night?

Frances:  That’s what people do – they go to places like work, shopping, the theatre – places dogs can’t go. She would bring you if she could – but with all of you, that would be a bit hard on her. Does that make sense?

Pillow:  Yeah, it does.

Frances:  Is there anything you want to tell your mom? 

Pillow:  Please tell her I love her very much and I am so happy to hear that I am staying. I kind of held back my feelings not knowing if I was going to stay or not, so now I’m all in. Thank you so much for choosing me and taking me home with you. I’m forever grateful. From your forever dog, Pillow. Oh, I like how that sounds!

For the Love of Animals,

Frances

 

Hellooo Dolly!

Dolly is an 11 year old Lhasa Apso mix. 

Her mom wanted to know if she was happy. 

Frances:  Hi Dolly – how are you?

Dolly:  I’m good, why?

Frances:  Your mom asked me to talk with you, is that ok?

Dolly:  Sure, anything for my mom – she’s the best. Why can’t she be with me all the time or me go with her all the time?

Frances:  Mom likes to go out of the house to work, shop, eat – stuff like that where dogs can’t go. Mom has to work to make sure you have food in your tummy and a roof over your head. Does that make sense?

Dolly:  Yeah, I suppose, but I can wish it so, right?

Frances:  Yes, you can wish and dream all you like. Do you wish to play more?

Dolly:  I would like to go for car rides and see other places. It gets kind of boring seeing the same walls all the time.

Frances:  Why don’t you like to be around other dogs?

Dolly:  I like people better, dogs are unpredictable.

Frances:  What do you like about your mom?

Dolly:  She is kind and sweet and gentle. She cares for my every need, and I love her very much. Please tell her thank you for choosing me to love and care for. I am the luckiest dog ever.

For the Love of Animals,

Frances

 

New Kid in Town 🐱🐈‍⬛

 

I recently had a session for a client with two cats.  This is how it went. 

Frances:  Hi Sally – how are you?
Sally:  I’m ok, why?
Frances:  Your mom asked me if I would talk with you, is that ok?  
Sally:  Yeah, I guess so, what about?  
Frances:  Do you like your new family?  I understand you have been there for about a year.
Sally:  It’s ok, but why did that other cat have to come too?
Frances:  Missy needed a home just like you did.  She is now your sister, why can’t you be nice to her?
Sally:  Why should I be nice to her?  She’ll take all my food.  
Frances:  There will always be enough food for you and Missy.  Your mom will always ensure you are both taken care of with a roof over your head and food in your tummies.  Do you know that you are loved, and this is your forever home?  
Sally:  What do you mean by “forever home”?  I’ve never been in one home for very long at all.  I’d get in a fight and that was it, I was moved to another place, then another, then another.  I don’t trust anyone anymore and that’s a fact.
Frances:  I’m sorry you haven’t had the kind of life you deserve.  But you do know if you’ll allow your mom to love you like you deserve to be loved you have it now.  A forever home is where you will stay for the rest of your life.  You will have the same home with your mom and sister named Missy.  This is your forever family, and it is there for you to open your heart and love and be loved.  Does that make sense? 
Sally:  I think so but how can I believe you?
Frances:  Just give it time.  You don’t have to take my words only, just allow each day to unfold with the knowing that you are loved, you have plenty of food in your tummy, and a roof over your head for your safety.  Can you do that?  
Sally:  I suppose I can try.  
Frances:  Good for you, that’s taking a positive step forward.  One step at a time, right?
Sally:  Yeah, ok – I see what you’re doing here.  I know I’ve put up a good wall to protect myself, I’ve had to.  Nobody did anything for me just because they wanted to.  I always felt like a burden, and they let me know it.  I liked being outside because then I didn’t have to deal with the people and their problems.  They yelled and screamed all the time at each other, and I just got in the way.  I do have to say my life here is nothing like that and I really do appreciate all that I am given, really, I do.  I was afraid it would be a repeat of the past and I would be moving on to another place, so I didn’t want to get my hopes up and open my heart just to get broken again, so I stopped trying.  I see that it is different this time and now that you mention it, I do feel I can relax more and allow the love they have to offer to sink in.  Yeah, even with Missy, I think I can do that too.  Thank you for talking with me, I do appreciate your words very much.
Frances:  Thank you, Sally.

 

For the Love of Animals,
Frances

Who's the Boss?

 

Marvin is a 6-year-old Goldendoodle with a very strong sense of self-importance and awareness.

When asked if he would like a dog brother or sister to join his family, he replied,

Marvin:  Hmmm, like a playmate that lives here? 
 
Frances:  It could be a playmate. 

Marvin:  That would be ok if they knew I was the boss.  They have to listen to everything I say, and I eat first, and I play first, and all the toys are mine.

Frances:  Well, don’t you think that would be a bit unreasonable to ask?  Sharing your home and life with another dog is a privilege.  You make it sound like everything is me and mine.  When another dog joins your family, a family shares what they have.

Marvin:  Well, I don’t think I want one then.  I don’t like sharing my stuff.  Besides, then I won’t get all the attention.  

Frances:  Why do you put mom and dad’s socks on your favorite stuffed animals?

Marvin:  I like the scent of mom and dad around when they are not here.  I like to share them with my favorite stuffed friends. My stuffed friends don’t get the same kind of love I get from them.

So, he does think of others, just not in the way we might expect.

Marvin:  I want to go on more walks and adventures to see new places and people.  I like to see new people; they are friendly to me because I’m so cute and I like the attention.

Frances:  Well, you do have a healthy opinion of yourself, you’re definitely not a wallflower.

 

For the Love of Animals,
Frances

Tough Love

 

Jerry is a 3-year-old male domestic short hair black cat who started attacking his housemates, other cats: Boo-boo, Sparkle and Jody. His mom wanted to know what was going on with him.

Frances: Hi Jerry – how are you?
Jerry: I’m ok, why? Who wants to know?
Frances: Your mom, Mary asked me to talk with you, is that ok?
Jerry: Yeah, I suppose so. [Sounds like a tough guy.]
Frances: Why are you beating up on your housemates?
Jerry: Like who?
Frances: Boo-boo, Sparkle and Jody.
Jerry: Aw, they’re just pussies – they can’t stand up for themselves. I’m trying to toughen them up.
Frances: Why do they have to be toughened up?
Jerry: To get along in the real world they have to be
tough.
Frances: Jerry, your real world is your home with your loving family – they do not have to be tough, nor do you. All you need is to love; love is what your world is all about.
Jerry: That’s not what I see on the TV – it’s rough out there.
Frances:  But Jerry, what you see on the TV is make believe, it’s not real. Your life is your home and your loved ones, not those on the TV.
Jerry: You mean they aren’t going to come in and get us from the box?
Frances: No honey – the images you see on that box is called a TV. They are just like the pictures on the walls that don’t move. They are not real and cannot jump off the wall or out of the TV. Does that make sense?
Jerry: Are you sure?
Frances: Yes, honey, I am sure. Actually, I am positive that your family is safe, and nobody is coming out through the TV.
Jerry: You sound pretty adamant about that, so I guess I’ll just wait and see for myself.
Frances: I promise it won’t happen, but in the meantime while you wait and see, please do not attack your housemates, they are perfect as they are. Just stay loving and kind to everyone in your home, including your housemates.
Jerry: Hmmm, I guess I could do that, but I’m not going to be a sissy if something does come through that box.
Frances: I understand you are not a sissy, but you can be strong and kind at the same time. You are perfect as you are, and mom would like you to be the kind and loving cat she knows you can be. Can you do that?
Jerry: Yeah, I suppose so. I was just trying to prepare everyone in case of a problem, you know?
Frances: Yes, I understand, but you now know that isn’t going to happen, right?
Jerry: Yeah, I get it. I guess I can calm down more, right?
Frances: Yes, you can relax and play with your housemates in a kind and loving way.
Jerry: That sounds pretty good. I think I’ll try that approach. Thank you for explaining this box to me.
Frances: You’re very welcome, Jerry.

My client told me it started when her roommate would play very aggressive video games and Jerry would sit and watch. Luckily the roommate is no longer living there so they can return to being a peaceful and loving home.

For the Love of Animals,
Frances

Looking on the Sunny Side!

When I look out my window I view the desert mountains, palm trees, and the sun peering from behind those cottony looking clouds. It’s a beautiful mid-70s and I am just so blessed to be able to share with you how happy and fulfilled my life working with you and the animals makes me feel. Never in my wildest dreams did I ever picture myself in the beauty of the desert, driving with the views that I see – just going to the market. Stunning, that’s all I can say.

The simple life here for me is stress free – like the animals that speak to me. They don’t have to worry about the day-to-day work, putting food on the table, getting kids off to school on time, driving in the traffic to get to work, having the report done on time to satisfy the boss’ demands – yikes, they have it so easy. That is, the ones that are lucky enough to have pet parents like us. They always have food in their bowls, fresh water (except when the kibbles jump into the bowl), a cleanish litter box (yeah, I’m not the greatest at keeping it spotless) and a lap to snuggle on or nearby. One of my favorite things about my cats is how independent they are. They are sisters and like night and day in personalities, idiosyncrasies, likes and dislikes. Sage is the bigger, normal size cat and Ollie was the runt of the litter, so she is half of Sage’s size and a bit clumsy as well. Sage is my morning greeter as soon as my eyes flutter open – she comes to my face, and I feel her breath with my eyes still closed. I rub her face and belly, she purrs and starts my day, time to get up. The reverse happens when it is bedtime with her requiring (she’s trained me well) the face and belly rub before I am to go to sleep. Ollie on the other hand is very independent, so in the morning when I make a move, she is immediately off the bed. She waits for her canned food in the morning and during the day follows the sun. She goes from slider to slider, room to room, leaning on the glass or sitting in the sunspot wherever she can find it. Yesterday she surprised me by sitting on the headboard in the guest room in the one sunspot from the small window in the high ceiling. She knows how to find the sunny spot wherever she can find it. I like the metaphor – how about you?

For the Love of Animals,

Frances

 

💖 Love From A Grateful Client 💖

My client W, contacted me regarding her two 11+ years old cats – siblings Stuart and Sheldon. She and her partner P were overwhelmed by grief as two months ago Stuart became sick and never made it back home from the vet’s visit. Sheldon had been crying pretty much non-stop, missing Stuart so much. I have found my clients have their pets’ photos on their phone, computer and all around the home. My suggestion is to ease the length of the grieving and continual impact. For example, every time the phone rings the deceased pet’s picture glares in front of them. I relate this to a record turning and the needle digs in and digs in a little more each time. (I know – I’m dating myself for those who remember records.) My client sent me this email one week after our session and gave me permission to share it with you, my readers.

Re: Telephone Consult

Client: "Dear Frances, I hope this email finds you in good health and warm!!
I had to reach out to give you an update on our household since your intervention on 01/07/2024. As soon as we said goodbye and the call ended, I immediately changed the picture icon of Stu and Sheldon I’ve used to access YOUTUBETV at the front door.
Of course, I still “see” Stu & Sheldon at the door, but I did find the new icon I selected to be calming. I also rearranged the memory area in the kitchen which provided Sheldon with access to overhang counter top. He was again walking that counter later that evening!

Frances: I realized the crying from Sheldon was not only missing Stuart, but he wanted to speak to someone telepathically like he did with his brother as he was losing his hearing.

My client confirmed she wore hearing aids and I do find our pets take on many of our body’s weaknesses and illnesses. I instructed my client to speak to him in her thinking voice. She may not hear what he had to say back to her as I do, but it comforted him nonetheless.

Client: I also began to communicate with Sheldon telepathically within 30 minutes of the end of the phone call. I’m improving with each day I do see Sheldon responding to my “mind voice”. P is using the technique, too. In fact, she went on your website and purchased your online pet communicator class!

The greatest improvement has been Sheldon! We can’t believe the change that has occurred! He was so quiet and calm. He entered the office (that’s where our conversation occurred) after the call ended and sat in the doorway, looking back and forward between P and me. He approached me, rubbing his face and head on the legs, looking up at me without any vocalization! He then walked to P and the same interaction occurred!

We have determined that Sheldon’s crying/vocalization has been reduced by 80-90%!! It is amazing!!! You are amazing!!! The talk you had with Sheldon really changed the course of his interactions with us! I truly believe he has been relieved of the overwhelming duty and responsibility of managing all of our grief and I think at the
determent to his grief!

I cannot express the relief I have felt since the burden was lifted from me after hearing from Stu and that he was happy I made the decision I did. Two nights before I was to take him in to the vet to have an abdominal tap to withdraw fluid, we were in bed and I was talking to him. As I petted and stroked him, I promised him I would not prolong his life to make me happy. And that he could trust me. That’s when I decided the vet visit wasn’t for tapping his abdomen. As a RN, I knew the signs & symptoms of an endless treatment without cure. I told him my decision and we slept soundly.

Your special talent is amazing and the transformation of the entire household has been likewise amazing. I waited to contact you with the success to ensure the changes weren’t transient. Well, we believe the changes are permanent and we are so grateful for meeting you 10 years ago and your extraordinary talent.

We have told friends and family who have pets about your abilities. In fact, one of our friends has a parrot that has been with her for 31 years! The parrot is not doing well and I thought she might appreciate using your talents. She is seriously considering the offer.

Thank you so much!

Health and peace to you,
W & P, Sheldon and Stuart

For the Love of Animals,

Frances