Some Favorite Conversations with the Animals

I recently found a printed copy of a talk I gave in 2011 at the Temple of Light in Lake Forest, CA.  As I read the talk I was reminded of some of my favorite early conversations and lessons while speaking with the animals.

Animals take on things for us such as (emotions, illnesses) and represents aspects or needs in our lives - like the need to receive unconditional love, giving our full attention to them and staying with us until a human love comes into our life, a partner or a baby. Our life changes and their purpose for us has been fulfilled. 

Over the holidays my cat Itty-Bitty Kitty took on an upper respiratory infection, a cold. People all around me were ill with colds, but not me. I had my health, no problem at all. My poor kitty had to be on antibiotics and fluids. I thanked him and let him know he didn’t have to do that in the future. I beefed up my immune system with vitamins.

Animals have feelings and emotions just like humans although they are much more forgiving and most don’t hold grudges. I say most because I asked Buddy a Pitbull terrier why he didn’t like the brown poodle. When he was walked by the house, Buddy barked and barked. I asked what the brown poodle said to him that got him so upset. He replied, “He called me ugly.”

Nala is a female mixed breed adopted only six weeks prior to this phone reading. She was hesitant to be affectionate or receive affection from the family. I asked her why. She told me she didn’t want to get too close since she wouldn’t be staying too long. She thought this was just another foster home, not realizing this was a permanent placement, her forever home. I explained to her that this is her home and the family loves her. My client on the phone started crying saying Nala was coming to her and laid down next to her. She was so happy. Nala was now able to receive affection and was relieved to know this was home. 

Feisty is a female West Highland terrier or (Westie). My client called saying she was throwing up, should she take him to the vet? I asked Feisty what was going on. She told me she was nervous about mom‘s upcoming surgery. My client confirmed she was having knee surgery. This was an outpatient procedure so she’ll be home and have someone over to help her. I related this info to Feisty, feeling relieved, the throwing up stopped.

The animals hear our spoken words and our telepathic thoughts so before you call them unkind names or talk of giving them away, etc. know that they hear, feel and know the meanings and may take those emotional releases as real. Not just your frustration expressed. 

Vader is a male Lhasa Apso. His mom asked me if there was anything he wanted to tell her. He told me he didn’t want her to call him stupid. She said, “But I don’t call him that to his face”. He also didn’t want to be thrown into the pool. She thought he liked it because he barked.  The barking was to tell her to stop. He would go in when he was good and ready. 

Lucky was a 15 year-old Springer Spaniel who is deaf and almost blind. His mom wanted to know if he was ready to go to heaven. He said, “No, the food‘s too good”. I didn’t know that she had special marked meat in the freezer labeled “Lucky” that she cooked for him every day.

I hope you enjoyed my travels down memory lane.

For the Love of Animals,

Frances

 

Raymond Misses his Dads

My client was concerned about his dog Raymond who is a 7-year-old male mini schnauzer mix. His husband passed away three years ago and has been working through his grief.  Throughout the years Raymond has occasionally urinated in the house. However, when my client returned from a recent vacation the occasional urinating had become a constant whenever he would leave him for any amount of time.  He had him medically checked for urinary tract infection, diabetes, kidney function and a complete blood panel. The results were all within normal ranges.

Here is a portion of the initial conversation with Raymond:

Frances:  Hi Raymond – how are you?

Raymond:  I’m ok, I guess.

Frances:  You guess?  What’s going on? 

Raymond:  I guess I’m bored.  I know I have toys, but I want to go outside and play with other dogs.  I want to go to a park with grass.  I like seeing other places, people and dogs.

Frances:  Is that why you are peeing in the house?  Are you mad at Dad for leaving you alone sometimes? 

Raymond:  Not just leaving me, but he doesn’t tell me where he is going and how long he’s going to be away.  Why can’t I go with him?  What’s wrong with me that he can’t take me with him?  I miss playing with my other dad.

Frances:  I’m sorry, Raymond – it’s hard on us when our dads pass away.  Does he ever come to visit?

Raymond: He used to but he stopped coming to visit us.

Frances:  Is that when you started peeing in the house more?

Raymond:   Well, kind of, yeah.  My dad went away and didn’t tell me anything, so I got mad.  Every time he leaves and doesn’t take me, I get mad.  It’s not fair.  What if something happens to him too?  What happens to me?

Frances:  Honey, I’m sorry you are upset with your dad for leaving you.  It scares you that he’s not coming back, right?

Raymond:   Yes, I get really scared I’ll be all alone.

Frances:  Raymond, your dad loves you and will always come back to you.  I will tell him how to tell you where he is going and when he is coming back so you won’t be scared for him to leave the house, ok?)

Raymond: Ok.  I guess I kind of got myself all worked up with worry, didn’t I?

Frances:  Yes, honey, I think you did, but that’s understandable when we get scared, we do things we don’t normally do – like peeing in the house, right?

Raymond:   Yeah.  I’m sorry.  I know it upsets dad.  Please tell him I’m sorry for that, ok?  

Frances:  Yes, honey, I will tell him.  Is there anything else you want to tell him?

Raymond:   Please tell him I love him so much and just get scared when he leaves the house.  Maybe he can take me sometimes?  I’ll be good, I promise.

Frances:  We will talk a bit later this morning.  Bye for now.

Raymond:   Bye and thank you for talking with me.

Frances:  You’re very welcome, Raymond.

During our appointment I shared with my client the way to share his comings and goings – not by hours of the clock, but by the actions of the day (breakfast, lunch, dinner, bedtime) i.e. “I’m going to go to dinner with Joe and I’ll be back before bedtime.”  In the case of overnight or vacation days I describe it as how many times the sun goes down i.e. “I will be going on a vacation and be back 7 times the sun goes down.  Aunt Susie will be staying here to make sure you have food and walks.”

I asked about the timing of the vacation and my client realized that on this trip he had released his grief of the loss of his husband.  His husband stopped coming around, so Raymond no longer was seeing him.  I assured Raymond that he didn’t love him any less, but dad no longer needed his energy to move forward in his life.

Two weeks later I received a follow-up email from my client:  Since our session two weeks ago, I have been using the time techniques you gave me, and there have only been 3 peeing accidents during this time. Thank you and I will keep using them.

For the Love of Animals,

Frances