Bucky Smells the Roses

Bucky Smells the Roses

Since his dad passed, Bucky has become much more aggressive toward other dogs and people.  His mom asked me to have a chat with him to find out what was going on with him.   #AnimalCommunication 

Bucky, a Jack Russell/Chihuahua mix, was adopted by my client and her husband 7 years ago when he was about 3 years old. Four years ago, as her husband’s health declined, he and Bucky became very close.  Since her husband’s passing, Bucky has become much more aggressive toward other dogs and people.

Here’s a bit of our session:

Frances:  Hi Bucky – how are you?  

Bucky:  I’m ok, why?

Frances:  Your mom asked me to talk with you, is that ok?

Bucky:  Yeah, sure, anything for Mom – she’s so good to me.  I miss my dad, but I think she does too.

Frances:  Yes, she does – and thank you for stepping up when he passed.  She needed you as much as you needed her.  Why do you bark so much when you see or hear other animals?
 
Bucky:  I'm protecting her.  You know, get them before they get you.

Frances:  I see.  How about seeing them as friends first unless they show you otherwise?  You can relax on your walks instead of being on guard and ready to attack?

Bucky: I never thought of it that way.  I thought it was my job to protect her.

Frances:   Well, it is your job to protect her when there is danger.  During your walks other friendly people walk their friendly dogs so there is no danger.  No need to bark at them.

Bucky: Oh, I see what you are saying.  It would be nice to relax and just smell everything without concern of the others around us, unless I see danger, right? 

Frances:  Yes, that is right.  Only when you see a danger can you bark.

Bucky: OK, I think I can try that the next time we are out walking.

Frances:  And stay by mom’s side as much as possible.

Bucky: Oh ok, I will try that too.  That’s a lot to remember.

Frances:  Your mom can remind you on your walks so you don’t forget.  

Bucky: OK, that will help.

Frances:  Good that will help mom too.  Why do you bite the heels of anyone wearing boots?

 Bucky: The first people I lived with wore boots and they would step on me all the time.

Frances:  Did they ride horses?
 
Bucky:  Yeah, those big animals they rode and didn’t care about me, so I ran off when they weren’t looking.  They didn’t care about me at all.

Frances:  Please don’t bite the heels of the people that come to see Mom.  They are not going to hurt you or Mom.  They are friendly and Mom would never let them take you.   This is your forever home and Mom loves you very much.
  
Bucky: Thank you for telling me that.  I just wasn’t sure if Mom would get tired of me and give me away.  

Frances:  Honey, mom would never do that to you, I promise.  

Bucky:  Oh, that makes me happy and relieved.  I really wasn’t sure after Dad left us if she really wanted to keep me or not.  

Frances:  Mom loves you and like I said earlier she needs you as much as you need her.

Bucky:  Thank you, I just needed to hear it again.  

Frances:  You’re welcome, Bucky.  What do you think about Mom getting a cat?

Bucky:  Why would she want to do that?  Am I not good enough?  

Frances:  Yes, of course you are.  Cats tend to be more cuddly and soft and sometimes we humans need that too in a companion.
 
Bucky:  Oh, well let me think about it more and I’ll get back to you. 

Frances:  Ok, I’ll be talking to mom soon.  Bye for now.  

Bucky:  Bye and thank you for talking with me.  

Frances:  You’re very welcome, Bucky.

For the Love of Animals,

Frances

 

Velma Learns to Chill

Velma is a 5-year-old female Doberman who has been part of her family since she was 14 weeks old.  Her mom was concerned about her aggressive behavior towards other animals, both on TV and during their walks.

Frances: Hi Velma – how are you?
Velma:  I’m good.
Frances: Mom asked me to talk with you, is that ok?   
Velma: Sure, anything for Mom.   
Frances: Why do you bark and get stressed when you see animals on TV? 
Velma:  I am telling them not to come in.  I’m protecting Mom.
Frances: I see.  The TV is just like a picture on the wall only it moves.  The animals or people you see can’t come out of the square frame.  It’s like a picture on the wall. You don’t need to stress and be concerned for your mom – they can’t come out of the frame.  Does that make sense?  
Velma:  Oh, I’m so glad you told me that.  I was really concerned when I saw people hurting each other, too.
Frances: I’m glad I could help you relax more while watching TV – it’s just like a moving picture on the wall. Why do you bark and act aggressively when you see dogs on your walks?  
Velma: I’m protecting Mom from the other dogs.
Frances: What if the other dogs were friendly? They are walking with their moms and dads, too.  There is no threat to anyone when you are walking with your mom.  Your actions create fear in others that is unnecessary.  How about walking next to Mom and pretending everyone is a friend, unless they show you otherwise? 
Velma:  Oh, I never thought about it like that.  I was always in protection mode.  You mean I can just walk regularly and not try to scare anyone?
Frances: Yes, that’s exactly what I am saying.  You can be a kind and friendly Velma, not the aggressive, scary Velma and even relax and enjoy your walks.  How does that feel?
Velma: That feels kind of different, but I think I could get used to it.  It takes a lot of energy being the scary one, you know?
Frances: Yes, I do understand.  So now you can relax and enjoy your walks, and Mom will enjoy them more too.

For the Love of Animals,

Frances

 

A Perch in the Window

Jim is a big 10-year-old ginger male tabby who was a big morning talker.  His housemate, Dell, was a 5-year-old small female calico who disappeared about a year ago.  Jim’s mom was wondering if he was lonely and would welcome a new friend.

Frances:  Hi Jim – how are you?

Jim:  I’m ok, why?

Frances:  Mom asked me to talk with you, is that ok?

Jim:  Sure, why not?

Frances:  Great. Why do you talk a lot in the morning?

Jim:  I’m trying to tell Mom about my dreams – dreams I had that night and dreams for the future, lots and lots of dreams.

Frances:  Well, you are welcome to tell me about some of your dreams if you like.

Jim:  Oh, cool – uh, ok.  Let’s see.  I want to live in a castle in the sky, have all the food and birds to play with and my mom will be the queen of the sky.

Frances:  Well, that is quite the picture of dreams.  How about your dreams here on earth?  Would you like to have a companion? 

Jim:  Naw, I’m ok being the only cat now.  I’ve gotten used to having all the attention for myself. I don’t have to share my food or toys or windows or anything for that matter. 

Frances:  Were you and Dell friends?

Jim:  Not really friends but we tolerated each other.  Dell liked to do more exploring than me.  I guess that’s why she isn’t here anymore.  Just tried to go too far, and an animal bigger than her took her away.

Frances:  Is that what she told you after she was in spirit?

Jim:  Yeah, she came back to warn me not to do what she did.

 Frances:  That was kind of her to warn you.

Jim:  Yeah, she was a good girl, we were just different.

Frances:  Jim, would you like to tell your mom anything?

Jim:  Please tell Mom I love her very much and all that she does for me.  I do like watching the birds outside, so can I have a perch by the window?

For the Love of Animals,

Frances

 

Lillie's Furever Home

While sharing a tea with my neighbor Teri, she mentioned our other neighbor Rebecca had recently (last Saturday and this was only Tuesday) adopted a dog from the local rescue shelter. She mentioned the dog was afraid and she wasn’t eating or drinking so Rebecca was really concerned about the new dog. I asked Teri if she would contact Rebecca. She was closer to her than I and suggest that I come over and speak with Lillie, the new dog. Rebecca was thrilled. She texted me and the next morning I went to see her new adopted dog Lillie.

When I arrived I realized she had weaned puppies very recently and was wearing a collar as she had been fixed prior to her adoption as well. I spoke with Lillie telepathically letting her know she was loved and safe and this was her new mommy and her new home. She was so surprised how quiet it was. She’s so used to the barking and yelling and all the stuff that goes on at the shelters. Lillie was moved to multiple shelters before she came to live with her new mom. I told her all the toys, all the food, all the water, even the comfy beds in the living room and the bedroom were all for her. She was so used to sharing. She was afraid she was gonna fight off another one just to be comfortable - poor baby. I did notice her water bowl was quite large so I suggested putting a smaller one as she seems to be so overwhelmed with things. The more contained that they can be the more she’ll get used to them. As Rebecca and I were talking, I noticed Lillie was getting more and more comfortable even to the point where she was laying, curled up in her bed with her back to us, not a care in the world. The next day, her mom texted me this: 

Hi Frances! Lillie is doing wonderfully - more relaxed, eating, and drinking her water. Thank you again!!! 

For the Love of Animals,

Frances

 

I am Always With Him in his Heart

 

I recently did a reading for a client who wrote:  

"This will be for my girl, Jessie. She was a beautiful American Eskimo. She came into my life in 2001. We rescued each other. We were together until just before Christmas 2012. She was possibly about 14 when she passed."

 Frances:  Hi Jessie – your dad wants to talk with you.  Is that ok?

Jessie: Of course, anything for Dad, he’s the best.  He was such a good man to me.  I never wanted for anything.  He knew when I was unhappy or in pain.  He did everything right for me.  What was right for him was right for me.  He didn’t have to explain anything to me about any actions he had to take, I understood it was always for our best interest.

Frances:  Thank you, Jessie.  Were you in pain at the end?

Jessie: I had some pain but Dad made sure it was at a minimum.  He always knew and was so good and caring to me.  

Frances:  Are you taking care of someone else now? 

Jessie:  Well, not in the physical world, but from here we can assist many at the same time.  When Dad thinks of me a part of my energy is there with him.  I hear him and I see him. Sometimes I jump on the bed with him so he can feel me with him.  I don’t think he realizes that that is really me with him, not a dream.

Frances:  Oh, I’m sure that will make Dad happy to hear that. Were you concerned about any choices made by Dad?

Jessie: I knew if it was best for Dad, it is best for me.  I just want Dad to be happy.  I know he misses me in the physical sense, but I am always with him in his heart.

Frances:  Is there anything else you want to tell your dad? 

Jessie: Please tell Dad how much I love him and want him to be happy with his life just as it is.  There is nothing more to ask for or prove to anyone.  He is a kind and generous man who just needs to love himself as much as he loves me.  Please take care of yourself and give yourself some treats – not the ones you gave me of course, but you know what I mean.  My beautiful dad, I love you.  

Frances:  Thank you, Jessie for your beautiful message.  

Jessie: Thank you for giving me the opportunity to talk with my dad.

Frances:  My pleasure, Jessie.

For the Love of Animals,

Frances

Why is That Other Cat Here?

Lucas and Simon are both recently rescued male cats.  Lucas has been with his mom for two months and Simon just joined the family two weeks ago.  It seems Lucas is not happy with another cat coming into his new home.  My client wrote:  "I don't know what to do. Tried asking/explaining nicely several times, talking more firmly while holding scruff, spray bottle, smacked his butt once in middle of the night. Separated them last night. Nothing stops him. I give him attention which he loves till he remembers Simon. Then he's off again." Frances's reading with Lucas: Frances:  Hi Lucas – Mom asked me to talk with you, is that ok? Lucas:   I guess so since I’ve got a lot to say.  Why is that other cat here?  Is he replacing me?  Why did she bring him here?  Is he staying?  Frances:  Ok, I hear you, Lucas.  Let me first assure you that you are staying, this is your forever home and Mom loves you very much.  So far so good? Lucas: Yeah, ok – go on. Frances:  When mom adopted you, you needed a home with love, food and a roof over your head, right? Lucas:  Yeah, so? Frances:  Simon, this new cat is in the same situation and Mom wants to add him to your household to be a companion for both you and her.  She realized she is not home for many hours at a time and this way you have someone to keep you company. Lucas:  So he’s not going to leave?  Frances:  No, he has no other place to go and there is so much love and food for the two of you.  Can you be nice and accepting of him instead of the aggression you are showing him?  He doesn’t deserve that.  He just wants to be part of the family.  What if he was first and then you came in to join the family and was treated like this, how would you feel? Lucas:  Well, when you put it that way, yeah I wouldn’t be very happy.  Okay, okay.  I get it. Frances:  So no more aggressive biting, attacking or anything else mean to Simon, right? Lucas:  Yeah, yeah – I’ll be nicer.  Please tell Mom I’m sorry, I’ll be better.  Maybe even share a toy or two.  But I keep my favorites.  Frances:  Thank you, Lucas.  Mom will be happy to see the two of you happy with her in the same room. Lucas:  I’ll see if I can do that for her.  Frances:  Thank you, Lucas.  Mom will be very appreciative. Lucas:  I understand, I will do better, I promise.  Frances:  I hope so because I will bug you again and again – like that voice that doesn’t stop. Lucas:  Wow, ok that’s pretty harsh, but I will, I promise.  Frances:  Again, thank you, Lucas.   My client updated me the next day after our session: "Lucas has been perfect since you and I spoke. Very affectionate and he invites Simon to play instead of forcing him. So far when they play he resists the urge to be too aggressive. I can see him stop and think for a moment, sometimes a result of a gentle word but not always necessary. So grateful and hopeful,  Catherine Darras." Now here’s the picture of Lucas (dark grey stripe tabby) and Simon (orange) sleeping peacefully together. For the Love of Animals, Frances

 

What's With the New Guy?

When bringing another pet into your home it is important to make sure your family is ready for the addition – and that means the pet who has been an only pet for all his life with you. 

My client has a cat named Homer, he is approximately 16 years old and was rescued 10 years ago.  He has been a single pet, although she tried to introduce other cats in the beginning, and he reacted badly. 

Lately she has befriended a cat, whom she named Dusty, who appeared on her hillside, and she’s been feeding him. He is now limping badly and she’s keeping him in a bedroom, separate from Homer. He is being neutered and his leg treated.

Here is my conversation with Homer:

Frances:  Hi Homer – how are you?

Homer:  I’m ok, why?

Frances:  Your mom asked if I would talk with you, is that ok?  

Homer:  Yeah, I suppose so. What about?

Frances:  You know she loves you very much, right?  

Homer:  Yeah, so?

Frances:  So, she would like to bring another cat to join your family.  He is living outside, and it isn’t safe for him due to the coyotes – the big mean dog like animals.  They eat cats and other animals as they don’t have a loving mom like you do.  

Homer:  So why are you telling me this?

Frances:  She would like you to accept the new cat and be kind to him.  There is plenty of food and love for both of you, you know that, right?  

Homer:  Yeah, I get that, but aren’t I enough?

Frances:  Yes, of course you are – you are more than enough.  But there is so much love for more and more kindness to share too.  He needs a safe place to live, and your mom would like you to be kind and accepting to this new cat. 

Homer:  Oh, I suppose so as long as he doesn’t get into my stuff.

Frances:  He’ll have his own stuff, but it would be nice of you to share some stuff.  

Homer:  Yeah, I suppose so.

Frances:  Thank you, Homer.  Would you like to tell your mom anything?  

Homer:  Please tell Mom I love her very much and sorry I’ve been making such a fuss over other animals coming inside.  I guess I was being kind of selfish.  I know what it’s like not having a loving family to care for you.  Thank you for all you do for me, and I guess we’re expanding the family – at least by one more.  I know I’m getting older and won’t be around forever so this might be a good fit to have another be there when it’s my time to go.  Not planning on anytime soon, but you know, thinking ahead as I don’t know when I’ll have this chance to talk to you like this.  

Frances:  Thank you, Homer – I know Mom will appreciate your change of heart.  Bye for now. 

Homer:  Bye and thank you for talking with me.

Frances:  My pleasure, Homer.

For the Love of Animals,

Frances