Resolve Issues with Love, Not Fighting

 

Hanson is a 2-1/2-year-old rescued Pug, who is blind in one eye and both of his ears are torn.  My client has had him since he was about 1 year old.  He has leash aggression but loves people and is fine off-leash. They had 3 cats before adopting Hanson and after some time, seems to be adjusting fine with them.  They say he is housebroken but continues to pee in the bedroom and office.  So, what is going on with Hanson?

Frances:  Hi Hanson – how are you?

Hanson:   I’m ok, why?

Frances:  Your mom asked me to talk with you, is that ok?

Hanson:  I guess so.  Oh, oh, what did I do wrong now? 

Frances:  Why do you think you did anything wrong? 

Hanson: Well, I know they get mad when I pee in the house, is that it?

Frances:  Now that you mention it, why do you pee in the house?

Hanson:  I guess for a couple of reasons.  First, I like getting everyone’s attention and second, it’s cold and wet out sometimes but it’s warm inside.

Frances:  Isn’t it nice to have a warm house that doesn’t smell like pee?  Is that any way to show how grateful you are for your mom and dad bringing you into their home?

Hanson:  Wow when you put it like that, I suppose I have been kind of a brat, haven’t I? 

Frances:   Yes, I would say so.  Do you know this is your forever home?

Hanson:  I hoped it would be, but I wasn’t sure.  Thank you for telling me that.  I guess I really should be nicer to them and not pee inside the house.

Frances:  Yes, I’m sure they would appreciate that very much.  When you are out on a walk, why are you so aggressive while on the leash?

Hanson:  I want everyone to stay away from my people – they need to know I will fight them off – all of them.

Frances:  In the place you were at before did you have to fight everyone off?

Hanson:  Yes, and I might be small, but I can fight pretty tough. 

Frances:  I’m sorry you had to fight for yourself before you came to this loving home.  They prefer to resolve issues with love, not fighting.  Can you consider that the other dogs and people are friends first, instead of enemies?

Hanson:  I never thought about it that way before.  I thought everyone was an enemy first – that’s what I always was taught.  You mean everyone else isn’t an enemy?

Frances:  That’s correct – consider that everyone else is a friend – unless they do something to make you think otherwise.  People, dogs and cats – they are all friends, unless they do something to make you feel uncomfortable like they want to hurt you. Can you try that?)

Hanson:  I suppose I can.  Seems like it would take less energy than always being ready for a fight. 

Frances:  Exactly, you can relax and enjoy your walks instead of being tense and ready to fight.  I think your life will have more joy and fun if you look at life this way.  What do you think?

Hanson:  I think you may be on to something.

Frances:  Good, you can practice by being nice to your housemates – the cats.  Let them be and they will let you be.  Make sense?

Hanson:  Yeah, I think it does.  Wow, what a whole new way of thinking.  Thank you for sharing that with me.

Frances:  You’re very welcome, Hanson.  Is there anything you want to tell your mom and dad?

Hanson:  Thank you for bringing me into your home.  I guess I haven’t been very nice to you in respecting your home.  I will do better.  I may need some reminders now and then.  I really do love you and thank you for all you do for me.  I like the idea of not fighting like I had to before coming to your home.  This lady told me to think of everyone as friends and I never thought like that before.  I think I can do that, too.  I guess that’s all I have to say. 

Frances: Thank you, Hanson.  I will be talking to Mom later today.  Bye for now.

Hanson:   Bye and thank you for talking to me. 

Frances:  My pleasure, Hanson.

To encourage Hanson to pee outside, realizing that the patio is a cold cement, I suggested placing a rug runner that could be hosed down and his feet won’t be cold when he steps outside.

 

For the Love of Animals,
Frances

"My Spirit is Light and Happy"

 

My client contacted me regarding her elderly parents’ dog Minnie, a 15 year old rednose Pitbull. They were planning to have her put down the next day. Minnie is her dad's world, but she has gotten to the point that she has many health issues and can no longer get up on her own. She is too big for her dad to pick up anymore and they feel it is time but need to hear some heartfelt words from Minnie.


Frances:  Hi Minnie – I understand you are not feeling well and it’s hard on your mom and dad.

Minnie:  Yeah, I know.  They are having a hard time letting go and please let them know I am ready to go.  My physical body is ready to leave – it’s so heavy for me to carry around. My spirit is so light and happy to be able to be released.  Please tell them I love them so much and appreciate all they have ever done for me.  I will love them forever and always be in their hearts.  If they want to spread my ashes in our regular walking path or in the ocean or on a mountain top – it doesn’t really matter to me.  It’s very symbolic, but not really necessary as I will always be there as they grieve.  I will hear them and see them so they can talk to me any time they like.  I won’t be there to eat the food and make a mess for them to clean up, but they have those memories to last a lifetime!  Just trying to make them laugh a little bit.  I will not be upset if they decide to adopt another rescue pet when they are ready.  They have so much love to give to another animal that is so desperate for a home – a loving and caring home.  I will forever love them and please tell them they are doing the right thing.  They can sleep well without feeling any guilt as I am ready to go.  Thank you for doing this for them – I really appreciate your work with us animals.

Frances:  My pleasure Minnie – safe travels.

P.S. I spoke to my client, and she thanked me for the message – she knew exactly the path in the backyard where the ashes will be spread.

For the Love of Animals,
Frances

Enjoying Summertime with Furry Friends

It’s summertime, fun and travel time.  Ever wonder what your pets think about those who care for them while you are gone?  Or when they are in to get pretty or handsome at the groomers?  Recently I spoke with Fannie, a 12-year-old poodle mix.

Frances:  Your mom is concerned about leaving you with your sitters when she is gone.  Do you mind them watching you?
 Why can’t I go with mom when she leaves?  Why do I have to stay here?

Frances: Sometimes mom takes trips that dogs can’t easily go on.  She will take you when she can, but only if she can.  Do you have a preference of your sitters Dick and Jane? [not their real names]
I like when Dick comes because he sits with me for a while.  He lets me do what I want and gives me treats.  We go outside when it isn’t too hot, and he doesn’t get mad if I pee in the house.  Jane is fussier.  She doesn’t like to clean after me and my messes.  She makes me go outside when it’s hot and doesn’t pay attention to how hot the ground is.  Sometimes I feel like my pads are burning but she doesn’t seem to notice as she is looking at the thing in her hand the whole time.

Frances:  (I think she is pre-occupied with her phone.)

I shared this with my client, and she confirmed that Dick is a bit older and does like sit around, not that mobile and gives Fannie treats.  Jane is a younger woman who is always on her phone.  One time Fannie threw up and she called my client in hysterics that she had to clean it up.  Whoopsie, guess we know Fannie’s preference.

My client also asked about the groomer as she was very stressed when she was in the car knowing she was going to the groomers.  Fannie told me she didn’t know who would be doing her grooming, some are not as careful or nice as others.  This stressed her out.  Their previous groomer was no longer available so she is now looking for a quieter situation, single groomer so Fannie will know who is taking care of her needs.

Frances:  Would you like to play with other dogs?
Not really, I’m good on my own.  I’m not really much of a “dog” dog, I like people better.  

Frances:  I understand that, Fannie – I tend to like dogs more than some people, too.

Enjoy your summertime with your pets and watch out for the hot surfaces when walking outside and please never leave them in the car unattended even for a few minutes.

For the Love of Animals,
Frances

 

Summer is Near - Traveling with Pets?

As things feel like they are returning to normal, at least a new normal, going out and enjoying new adventures are in order.  With the sunny summer travels approaching, it’s so important to remember our furry four-legged friends.  When you take them on your car ride adventures, please consider their safety.  We use seat belts, and they should too for their safety as well.   Like children, sitting on your lap with the car moving, whether you are the driver or the passenger – is not safe if you have to stop short or God forbid, were in an accident.  

If you have a smaller size pet, consider the basket type where they can see out the window while being safely strapped in.  There are other strapping devices for larger pets who may sit in the back seat with the window cracked open for their nose to stick out (I just love seeing the wind blowing in their face and the hair blowing back).  Please be careful not to have the window open too much so they don’t fall out.  If your pet rides in the back bed of the truck – please consider harnessing them in with more than a single leash connected to their collar.  (I don’t want to think what can happen should they try to jump out).  Have fun, enjoy the new adventures of this phase for you and your pet’s life.

For the Love of Animals,
Frances

 

Adopting a New Pet: Finding the Right Companion

Adopting a New Pet:
Finding the Right Companion

Adopting a new pet after one has transitioned can be tricky, especially when there is a surviving companion grieving the loss. When is it OK? Grieving appears with signs such as loss of appetite, lack of desire to thrive and sleeping more than usual. Just like humans, the animals grieve the loss of a loved one.

In doing this work of animal communication, I have found the pets who stay behind, while in their grief, or even a year or two later, can be very possessive of their owners. Introducing a new pet, without asking them first, can create havoc. There can be jealousy of the new pet or anger at you for bringing in another. How can you replace their dear companion?

Norton is a 15-year-old domestic shorthair orange male cat that was not keen on the new dog joining the family.

Norton:  Why did he get the dog? Wasn't I enough? Is he going to replace me? I try to be good. I've been giving him more attention since the dog's been here - why is he so loud? He doesn't let me sleep in peace. I just want to be left alone and he comes and sniffs around me.

Me:  The dog needed a good home so dad brought him home - you can share dad can't you?

Norton:  I suppose - as long as he doesn't eat my food - I eat all my food so he won't get it.

Me: You don't have to do that - there will always be enough for you - I'll make sure dad puts your dish where the dog can't get to it, OK?

Norton:  OK that will help - thanks. Tell dad I love him OK? I don't get to say that to him so he understands.

Bubba, a cat that was depressed as he was missing the daughter (he called "mom") that was away on vacation and he was overhearing conversations of her going away to medical school:

Bubba:  Why did mom leave me? I know they love me too - but I miss my mom. Bring mom back or take me to her.

Me:  I asked if hearing her voice would help. Sometimes it can help to put the phone on speaker and having the pet hear the voice of the person they are missing.

Bubba:  Yes, hearing her voice will help. I like my food. My other moms are nice, but they aren't mom. My house is nice, my bed is nice. I miss my mom. I want my mom.

Me:  Playmate?

Bubba:  Maybe - but I'm the boss. Maybe a girlfriend? I might like that - I never had a girlfriend before. One that looks like me? I'd like that - yeah that could be fun.

When my client is thinking of bringing in another pet, after the loss of a dear companion, I tune in to the surviving companion for guidance. Have they cleared the grieving process? Is there anger towards the owner for "taking their companion" away? Do they understand the death process? Are they seeing their companion's spirit around them?

Excerpts taken from my books: What Do Your Pets Want You to Know?, More Messages from the Animals, and Lessons from the Animals available on Amazon and Kindle.

For the Love of Animals,

Frances

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How Cold is Too Cold?

The best way to monitor dogs when it’s cold is to keep a close eye on their behavior. If you notice your dog shivering, acting anxious, whining, slowing down, searching out warm locations or holding up one or more paws, it’s time to head inside. 

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5 Tips for Your Next Trip to the Dog Park

Ah, the dog park. It's a magical place for dogs and humans alike. (If you thought you enjoyed people watching, you're really going to love dog watching.  But just because the dog park is a dog person's utopia, it doesn't mean that there are no rules. Freedom, after all, isn't really free.

To help keep park time peak fun time, we've rounded up some basic tips to help you and your pup mind their pees and qs.

1. Leave all food and treats at home.

Too many dogs are protective over snacks and seeing the limited supply could cause a dangerous tussle.

2. Don't keep your dog on leash in off leash areas.

Dogs can get nervous around one another when some are on leash and some aren't. If your dog has good recall, let 'em off! If they don't, then that's something to work on before entering the park with other dogs.   

3. Pick up after your dog (stay off of the phone).We know you know to clean up after your dog, but too many times we've seen people on their phones instead of noticing the mess their dog made. It's annoying, but it's also a danger! Keep an eye on your dog at all times while they're playing.

4. Don't bring dogs to the park that aren't fixed.

If you've been to middle school you know that everything is more dramatic when hormones are raging. Plus, we don't need to be making granddogs in the corner of the park.

5. Keep essentials stocked.

If you bring a ball to the park, you have to assume that another dog is going to want to play with it too. Plus, you never know when a friend is going to need apoop bag. Luckily, we have a whole Dog Park Essentials collection for you to stay prepared for a lovely afternoon.

Article courtesy:    BarkShop.com

Lori: Writer, Giving Cosmo a refresher course in Dog Park 101. 
Benji: A+ Doggo, Gets a gold star for his splendid dog park behavior. 
Tazz: Editor, Benji's proud dog momma. 

Buster is a Happier Dog!

After my recent "conversation" with Buster, his mom had this to say.....

Buster says "Thank you Frances for making sure my mom got me a new bench to securely jump into bed" 

It is interesting our bond seems like it has grown even stronger since you were here. And now Buster does not seem so stressed when I leave him. He is not happy, but he is ok with it. Thank you for all that you do!

We are very grateful for you!

If your pet is exhibiting behavior that you do not understand, please contact me and arrange an animal communication conversation!

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Animal Resources 2017

Animal Resource List

Please share with me your favorite animal healers - western, eastern and holistic, vets, reiki, acupuncture, food, sitters, walkers, aromatherapy - I would like to make this list available to my readers in the next blog - and add to it as a resource to serve you and the animals.

Pet Walkers and Sitters

Arf Dog Walks
Rise Taylor 949-554-9700

Judy’s Loving Care - Judy Steward 

judytst@cox.net  

949-278-7876

Lisa the Critter-Sitter 

949-292-6572

Patties Pet Care and Housesitting

Pattie Meyers 949-370-0087

Penny Pampers Pets    

949-600-8885 cell:  949-677-4930

Downward Dog
Dog walking, day camps, overnight boarding.
Ivy 949-244-8606

Rescues and Organizations

Barks of Love Animal Rescue and Placement Services

PO Box 4156 Fullerton, CA 92834

Rescue@barksoflove.org

Fax #: (714) 598-3355

Orange County People for Animals

Dina Kourda

dina.kourda@ocpausa.org

949-939-4860 / 714-751-6272

Petfinder - Cats 

Kitten Rescue LW Catmom’s Adoptions 

Linda 949-348-2640 lwcatmom@pacbell.net

Phyllis 323-394-0954  phyllis@millerburg.com

Julie 61-313-5193 cleanjust42day@msn.com

Kitten Rescue 818-347-3037 mail@kittenrescue.org 

Pet Project Foundation

Groomers

17th St. Dog Spaw
285 E. 17th St., Costa Mesa
949-646-5497

Pet Health

Animal and Bird Clinic of Mission Viejo 

Dr. Peter Bloch

24912 Chrisanta Drive

Mission Viejo, 92691

(949) 768-3651

Cat Faeries

Enzymes and sprays to address feline spraying and urine issues

InVet
Arthramine for Healthy Joints & Bones 

Glucosamine is great for older dogs with stiff joints, add to their food and can be purchased at your local pet store.

Lap of Love

Nationwide home based veterinary hospice and euthanasia. 
(855)933-5683
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Paws On the Go
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Center for Animal Physical Rehabilitation and Mobility Solutions

Caroline Goulard DVM, CCRT, CVA, CVPP

24310 Moulton Pkwy Suite N, Laguna Woods, CA 92637

(949) 813-4107  

ZugoPet
Multifunctional pet products including pet safety car seat harness.  

Pet Food

Arcana Dog and Cat Food

"Biologically Appropriate" mirrors your pet’s evolutionary diet.

Paw Tree
Nutritional pet food and natural products
Vickie Marx  949-360-7773 

Truth About Pet Food
Information about pet food ingredients, regulations, recalls and more. 

Conversation with Bear

Bear

Frances: Hi Bear – how are you?  

huh? Who are you?  

Frances: I’m a friend of your mom.  She asked if I could talk with you.

oh ok.  

Frances: Honey I know you are a puppy and have so much energy.  Your mom is concerned when you don’t listen to her.  She and the family love you very much.  

Why did they send me away?

Frances: They sent you to a special puppy school to learn your manners.  To learn how to behave with your family.  To learn to go pee and poo outside.  

So are they going to send me away again?

Frances: No honey – they love you and want you to stay in their family.  It is important that you behave by not jumping or biting anyone.  The people who come to your house are friendly and not going to harm anyone.  Does that make sense to you?  

I guess so but I thought I was supposed to protect them.  

Frances: You are honey, but only when there is a danger – not everyone is bad, everyone is good until they show you otherwise.  To let mom know someone is there you can do one bark.  If there is danger then you can bark more – no jumping or biting on anyone.  

What is my job then?  

Frances: Your job is to be a loving companion for the boys and Quinn.  

But Quinn doesn’t play back.

Frances: I know honey that’s because he is older – but be kind to him ok?)  

ok so I can play with the boys?

Frances: Yes honey – but outside – not in the house – you need to be a gentle dog in the house.  No running or horseplay in the house.  Please calm down when you are inside.  

What does “calm” mean?

Frances: Taking things slower – walk slower, move slower, behave in a slower way.  Take your time eating, there will always be enough food for you.  Share your toys with Quinn – even if he doesn’t act like he wants to play – show him you will share with him. 

There are lots of toys and the food is really good.  Is it ok if I sit next to mom when she is working or talking on the phone?

Frances: If you are still and quiet I’m sure mom won’t mind. She loves you very much and want you to be a loving part of the family.  Please understand they chose you because you are special – they love you very much.

Wow – so I’m not going to have to live anyplace else? This is my home for real?  

Frances: Yes honey – this is your home and your family – and love them as much as they love you.  Do you think you can do that?

Yes – oh thank you for talking with me.  

Frances: You’re very welcome Bear – bye bye.

Bye

Bob's Unusual Pet Family

Luiz Higa Junior of São Paulo, Brazil, says that his golden retriever, Bob, is a little less than two years old. In the beginning, he just had Bob, a cockatiel and a parakeet. 

“Since the beginning I put them together to see their behavior,” he tells us. “It was nice, so I decided to have them play together sometimes during my free time.” 

He then added more birds and a hamster to the group.  You can now see the group posing, playing, exploring, and resting together. 

Is This Pet an Artist?

Kibble Art 

by Whiskers Picasso

Whiskers, is very creative with her food.  She likes to create portraits in her kibble.  These have just started to appear in her dish within the last few months.   

Whisker’s auntie Lisa thinks that the one on the top looks like her with the big hair. Someone else said it looks like lil orphan Annie.  Some pre-teens we polled thinks the two on the right look like the evolution of Michael Jackson's style! 

What do you see here? Do you think the one on the bottom left looks like Scooby Doo?

Show us what your pet can do by sending your photos & stories to FrancesPetPsychic@gmail.com

Why does my dog act funny when the handyman comes to my home?

 

Our pets know the character of the people who we bring into our lives. They will react differently to those they approve of and those they don’t. Many times the pet will act uncharacteristically with this person – aggressively if they are normally docile, quiet if they are usually talkative – these warning signs are for you to pay close attention to this person. Do they have your best interest at heart?

The pets are able to sense if a person is good or bad for you in your home.  If someone is in your home to do repairs, the pet may be very protective if they sense danger from this person.  It may be an unsaid word, the smell (one pet didn’t like the smell of the repairman – the client indicated the man wore the same clothes day after day), the way the person looks at you when you are not aware (but the pet watches every move).  The pet may try to give you warnings with their actions – to keep you aware of their uneasiness with this person in your home.  Trust the pet’s instinct – they only want the best for you.