Be Good To Yourself

This is a reading for the mom of a 15-year-old dog who had passed. She was still grieving and wondering about how he was doing months later.

Here’s his message to mom:

“I know mom didn’t want me to go but my body was ready. We had such a good life together. She was so caring to me. I love her so much – even though my body isn’t there, the love for her is always there. I have lots of friends here – new ones that came at the same time I did. We all had our loving homes and like to tell each other our stories. Sometimes I check in on mom – especially when she is sad and missing me. She may feel like I am right there with her – and I am; energetically. She may sense my presence and she needs to know it really is me. Sometimes I’ll lay on the bed with her.

Please let mom know I left my body when I was supposed to – no questions about that. She did everything right so please do not feel any guilt about what was done or not done – it was all done the way it was supposed to be. I am happy and energetically healthy and one day our energies will meet again. Not in the physical body, but after that. Please allow yourself to move on and share your love with another pet if you choose to. There is no jealousy, you are not replacing me – it is just as it is supposed to be. Be as good to yourself as you were to me. Focus on your happiness and not those around you. You come first – others will take care of themselves.”

For the Love of Animals,

Frances

Bobcat's Goodbye

 

Bobcat's Goodbye I recently received this email from my client and I am sharing her story with permission. "You did a reading on my cat Bobcat last spring, I think around May 2020.  Something that he told you was about his passing, which was that he didn’t want to be kept alive with treatments and he wanted to go as naturally as possible.  This didn’t make sense to me at the time as he seemed far off from crossing over, and that was not the reason why I had the reading done.  However…on January 15th 2021, my Bobcat passed from advanced renal failure from diabetes.  I felt so guilty about his seemingly premature passing.  I felt it was my fault because I had to stop treating him with insulin shots a few months prior.  Bobcat had started to fight me with each injection, which was negatively impacting our bond, and about the same time, I had become very sick and learned I had cancer.  I couldn’t risk being scratched or bit by him so for both reasons, I stopped the insulin injections.  A couple weeks after he passed, I recalled the reading and found the transcript to refresh my memory.  His message made so much sense and caused me to let go of my guilt.  He went as he requested…especially at the end.  He passed three days after the diagnosis, and during that time, I kept him comfortable, gave him tons of love, and the night before I called the euthanasia service, I knew he was ready.  I had the honor of feeling his spirit leave his sick body; I felt his joy and excitement about being set free. I wrote about it in the following blog entry if you’d like to read it: Bobcat's Goodbye All that so say, thank you for what you do!  And a good lesson in trusting in the reading, even if the message doesn’t initially seem to fit. Warm regards,  Pamela Knudsen Cat Lady in the Canyon   For the Love of Animals, Frances W. Greenspan  Animal Communicator and Intuitive eBay Consultant and Teacher CLICK the link to subscribe to my monthly newsletter “Animal Talk” How to Sell On eBay FrancesWGreenspan.com website Animal Drawings by Frances  Frances on Facebook Pet Love Patreon LearnItLive

Adopting a New Pet: Finding the Right Companion

Adopting a New Pet:
Finding the Right Companion

Adopting a new pet after one has transitioned can be tricky, especially when there is a surviving companion grieving the loss. When is it OK? Grieving appears with signs such as loss of appetite, lack of desire to thrive and sleeping more than usual. Just like humans, the animals grieve the loss of a loved one.

In doing this work of animal communication, I have found the pets who stay behind, while in their grief, or even a year or two later, can be very possessive of their owners. Introducing a new pet, without asking them first, can create havoc. There can be jealousy of the new pet or anger at you for bringing in another. How can you replace their dear companion?

Norton is a 15-year-old domestic shorthair orange male cat that was not keen on the new dog joining the family.

Norton:  Why did he get the dog? Wasn't I enough? Is he going to replace me? I try to be good. I've been giving him more attention since the dog's been here - why is he so loud? He doesn't let me sleep in peace. I just want to be left alone and he comes and sniffs around me.

Me:  The dog needed a good home so dad brought him home - you can share dad can't you?

Norton:  I suppose - as long as he doesn't eat my food - I eat all my food so he won't get it.

Me: You don't have to do that - there will always be enough for you - I'll make sure dad puts your dish where the dog can't get to it, OK?

Norton:  OK that will help - thanks. Tell dad I love him OK? I don't get to say that to him so he understands.

Bubba, a cat that was depressed as he was missing the daughter (he called "mom") that was away on vacation and he was overhearing conversations of her going away to medical school:

Bubba:  Why did mom leave me? I know they love me too - but I miss my mom. Bring mom back or take me to her.

Me:  I asked if hearing her voice would help. Sometimes it can help to put the phone on speaker and having the pet hear the voice of the person they are missing.

Bubba:  Yes, hearing her voice will help. I like my food. My other moms are nice, but they aren't mom. My house is nice, my bed is nice. I miss my mom. I want my mom.

Me:  Playmate?

Bubba:  Maybe - but I'm the boss. Maybe a girlfriend? I might like that - I never had a girlfriend before. One that looks like me? I'd like that - yeah that could be fun.

When my client is thinking of bringing in another pet, after the loss of a dear companion, I tune in to the surviving companion for guidance. Have they cleared the grieving process? Is there anger towards the owner for "taking their companion" away? Do they understand the death process? Are they seeing their companion's spirit around them?

Excerpts taken from my books: What Do Your Pets Want You to Know?, More Messages from the Animals, and Lessons from the Animals available on Amazon and Kindle.

For the Love of Animals,

Frances

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Billy's Message from the Other Side

Frances:  Hi Billy –how are you?

Billy:  I’m fine – I wish mom would stop blaming herself.   She did nothing wrong.  She did everything she could and more.  My body was only going to last just so long. 

It saddens me to see her so upset – thank you for talking with her.  She

was the perfect mom – I know she didn’t think so – but she made the best food and served it with love.  Love was all around – she had so much to share with

me.  I want her now to share that love with herself.  To treat herself like she did me – even half as much would be so good for her. Please tell her I love her very much and will always love her.  I will always be in her heart and she can call on me whenever she wants me by her side. 

Please tell her to light a candle for me tonight and know that when it goes out – I will still be around her in her heart.  She will never be forgotten – she was the best mom a dog could ever have. 

Frances:  Thank you, Billy – I will share this with your mom.

Billy:  You’re welcome and thank you from all of us on this side of the veil.

I had to put my pet down - will she forgive me?

Q:   My beloved fur baby’s name is Cheyenne. She is a lab/pit mix.  She passed at 13 years old. I'm having a real hard time. The vet I took her to told me to put her down because she was in so much pain it was hard  for her to walk. I went outside to get my brother so he could say good bye and when we went back in to the room the vet had taken her in the back and I never saw her again !!! I wasn't with her till the end . ...My question is .....DOE SHE KNOW ? And will she ever forgive me ?

Frances:  Our pets know our intention, whether we are in the same room or the same dimension – they are with our spirit telepathically.  They know we love them – no regrets.  Cheyenne had a wonderful life with you and allowing her to cross over peacefully was the humane thing to do.  Remember the happy times, remember them in your heart.  Please do not have shrines of her around your home.  Have a special corner with a picture or her ashes when you feel the need to take a moment.  Talk to her, she hears you – whether out loud or in your thinking voice.  Know that she is at peace and wants you to be as well.  The love never dies – it lives on in your heart.  She wants you to share that love with another pup that needs rescuing – when you are ready.

Adopting a New Pet

Adopting a new pet after one has transitioned can be tricky, especially when there is a surviving companion grieving the loss. When is it ok? Grieving appears with signs such as loss of appetite, lack of desire to thrive and sleeping more than usual. Just like humans, the animals grieve the loss of a loved one.

In doing this work of animal communication, I have found the pets who stay behind, while in their grief, or even a year or two later, can be very possessive of their owners. Introducing a new pet, without asking them first, can create havoc. There can be jealousy of the new pet or anger at you for bringing in another. How can you replace their dear companion?

When my client is thinking of bringing in another pet, after the loss of a dear companion, I tune in to the surviving companion for guidance. Have they cleared the grieving process? Is there anger towards the owner for "taking their companion" away? Do they understand the death process? Are they seeing their companion's spirit around them?

To present the idea of a new pet into the home, I broach the subject with compassion. I ask the pet if they would mind another companion who is homeless? Will they allow their owner to assist another pet and bring them into their home to share their love? This approach appeals to their compassion for the other pet instead of seeing them as competition for the owner's attention, love, food or toys. I assure them there will be enough attention, love, food and toys for both of them.

I also ask if they have a preference: a two-year-old cat versus a kitten, a female versus a male. Yes, the animals have their preferences if they are asked.