What is Billy Grumbling About?

Billy is a 5-year-old male mixed breed rescued dog, who my client has had for just over a year.

Frances:  Hi Billy – how are you? 

Billy:  I’m good, why?  Who are you?

Frances:  That’s good to hear.  Your mom asked me to talk with you, is that ok?

Billy:   Sure, why not?  Anything for Mom.

Frances:  Great.  Do you know that your family loves you very much?

Billy:   I hoped so, it seems like it.  Is there something wrong?

Frances:  No, not at all honey.  I’m just letting you know that this is your forever home. You can be assured that you will not be living with any other family.

Billy:  Oh, I’m so glad you told me that.  I was really not exactly sure, but hoped that it was true. YAY for me!

Frances:  I’m happy you are happy.  That will make Mom happy too.  So now I have questions that Mom is asking, is that ok?

Billy:    Yes, of course.

Frances:  When you sound like you are grumbling, what are you trying to tell Mom?

Billy:   It depends on where we are and what we are doing.  In the kitchen, I want food or a treat. Sometimes I’m just trying to tell her that I love her.  Or maybe I want to go for a walk, a ride or who knows what.

Frances:  So it’s never just one thing all the time?

Billy:  Yep, just like us talking now – it’s different words, only I can’t say them like this to her.

Frances:  I understand. Do you like living with your family?

Billy: What’s not to like?  I have food, love and a roof over my head.  I can’t ask for more than that, can I?

Frances:  Well, let’s say you could ask, but you won’t necessarily get it, you know?

Billy: Yeah, I get it.  But I can try, right?

Frances:  Of course you can.  What else would you like to do more of?

Billy:   Now that I know I am staying, I would like to go on more car rides.  I was always afraid I would be dropped off and left like my other family did to me.

Frances:  I’m sorry that happened to you.  That will never happen to you again.  If they drop you off someplace, they will always come back and get you.

Billy:  Thank you, that is good to hear.

Frances:  Does your body hurt anywhere?

Billy: No, I’m good.

Frances:  Why do you sleep by yourself at night?

Billy:  I always have so I didn’t know it was ok to join the others in the house.

Frances:  Even though Ruby was in the house before you, she looks up to you to follow your lead and behavior.  When you are on walks in public, can you be calmer?  Pretend everyone is a friend, unless they show you otherwise.  Staying calm and near your mom is best.  Just being next to Mom or whoever you are walking with, is the best way to stay calm.  No barking or grumbling when in public.  It is sometimes scary for others to understand you are being friendly.

Billy: But I am being friendly when I talk.  

Frances:  Yes, but others don’t understand that, so best to be quiet and calm while in public.

Billy:  Ok, I’ll try that next time.

Frances:  Thank you, Billy.  I’ll be talking with Mom a bit later this morning.  Bye for now.

Billy:  Bye and thank you for talking with me.

Frances: You’re very welcome.

For the Love of Animals,

Frances

 

By George, He's Got It!

 

George is an 8 year old Chihuahua mix who has a carefree life – even gets to ride in a stroller while at the store.  Here is a part of our conversation:

Frances:  Hi George – how are you?

George:  I’m good, why?

Frances:  Mom asked if I would talk with you.  Is that ok?

George:  Sure, anything for Mom.  

Frances:  Why is your eating pattern so erratic?

George:  I eat what I want when I want to.  Do I look like I’m starving? I don’t think so.  

Frances:  Good to know.  Why do you try to lick Mom’s face?

George:  I’m just trying to kiss her to show her how much I love her.

Frances:  Mom appreciates your effort to show her your love, but could you wag your tail or something like that instead?

George:  Sure, I could do that if she doesn’t want me to lick her face. Can I lick her hand?

Frances:  As long as it isn’t all the time.  Moderation is best, okay?

George:  Ok, I’ll try that.

Frances:  Are you happy with your family?

George:  What a silly question, of course I am.

Frances:  Is there anything you would change?)  

George: I want Mom to be home with me all the time.  I know that is unrealistic, but you did ask.  

Frances:  I’m glad you understood the question.  Yes, it is unrealistic.  Why do you bark at other dogs in stores?

George:  I show them how special I am. They have to walk, I get to ride.

Frances:  Please don’t bark at the other dogs, it can be scary to them and their mom or dad.)  

George:  Oh, I didn’t think of it that way.

Frances:  Only bark if there is danger to alert your mom, but please be quiet otherwise.

George:  Ok, I’ll be more conscious of that.

Frances:  Would you like another dog companion to join your family?

George:  No thank you.  I like being the focus of attention.  I’m not big on sharing.

Frances:  I’ll let Mom know. Is there anything you want to tell your family?

George:  Thank you for choosing me to join your family.  I am a happy dog and enjoy my life very much.  I love my mom so much.  

Frances:  Thank you, George.  I’ll be talking with Mom soon.  Bye for now.

George:  Bye and thank you for talking with me.  So to have a say in what happens in the family, you know?

Frances:  Yes, honey, I do understand.

For the Love of Animals,

Frances

Stop and Smell the Roses

My client contacted me regarding Billy, who is a 15 year old gray tabby male cat.  Billy is constantly meowing at her and her husband.  She says he has different meows and just wonders what he wants to tell them.
 
Frances:  Hi Billy – how are you?

Billy:  I’m good, why?

Frances:  Mom asked me to talk with you, is that ok?

Billy: Sure, anything for Mom.

Frances:  She says you meow to her in different ways and wants to know what you are saying. 

Billy:  It depends on what day and what I wanted to say. Sometimes it is to distract her from moving around so much.  She doesn’t stop to rest.  I want her to take better care of herself.  She worries so much about others and what she can do for them.  I want her to do something nice for herself, you know what I mean?

Frances:  Yes, Billy, I do know what you mean.  Humans can get so caught up in “doing” they forget about “being”.  Just “being” in the moment to stop, meditate, smell the flowers – even for just a few minutes – can make such a big difference.

Billy: Yes, that’s what I’m talking about.  You’re good! 

Thank you, Billy.  I appreciate the encouragement from you.  Is there anything you want to tell Mom?

Billy: Please tell Mom I love her so very much and appreciate the wonderful life she has given me.  I’m a lucky cat to have her as my mom.

Frances:  That’s a beautiful message for Mom.  I’ll be talking with her soon.  Bye for now.

Billy: Bye, and thank you for talking with me. 

Frances:  You’re very welcome, Billy.

For the Love of Animals,

Frances

 

George Has Had Enough

George is an 8-year-old Chihuahua mix who was diagnosed with diabetes a few months ago, developed cataracts, and is now blind.  His vet ordered Insulin injections twice per day, and he hates them.  My client wants to do the best for George medically but also knows how much he hates the shots.  She will do whatever George wants her to do.

Frances:  Hi George – how are you?

George:  Oh, ok, I guess.  

Frances:  I understand you have lost your sight, and Mom has to poke you twice a day.  How do you feel about all that happening to you? 

George:  I hate it, I hate it, I hate it.  Why do I have to go through this?  What kind of life is this?  I know Mom loves me and wants to do the best for me.  But I don’t want to exist like this.  I can’t play like I used to or enjoy my walk to see the other dogs and people.  It has taken away my world of enjoyment and experience.  Do I have to continue like this?

Frances:  Honey, I will talk with Mom about the next steps, so you won’t have to live like this, if your mom agrees, of course.  She doesn’t want you to suffer any more than you have to and understands you don’t want those shots anymore.  

George:  Thank you for telling me that.  I love Mom so very much, but this isn’t living, it’s just existing, and I’m ready to be done with it.  

Frances:  I will be talking with Mom soon and share your message.  Bye for now. 

George:  Bye and thank you for talking with me.

Frances:  My pleasure, George.

 

For the Love of Animals,

Frances

 

 

Marissa's Mom Loves Her

Marissa is a 7-year-old flame-point Siamese female cat who joined her mom about a year ago. She had been treated for an abscess on her neck before her adoption. After the adoption, her teeth had to be removed due to an autoimmune disease. She is now eating quite well and is at a healthy weight. She is quite aloof and doesn’t allow her mom to touch her neck without a fuss.

Frances:  Hi Marissa – how are you?

Marissa: I’m OK, why?

Frances,  Your mom asked me to talk with you.  Is that ok?

Marissa: I guess so, but who’s Mom?

Frances:  Mom is the lady who loves you, feeds you, and cares for you.  I refer to her as “Mom”.  

Marissa: Oh, I see.

Frances:  Do you know how much you are loved? 

Marissa: I guess so, not really sure what that means.

Frances:  Well, you are cared for and fed every day, and you don’t have to worry about anything, right?  

Marissa: Well, I worry she’s going to take me back to that place that hurt me.

Frances:  You mean the place with the doctor and helpers?

Marissa: Yeah, that place.  I don’t want to go there ever again.

Frances:  You will only go there if there is a medical reason to keep you healthy. 

Marissa: Oh, so not anytime soon?

Frances:  I don’t believe so, but I’ll ask Mom when we talk a bit later this morning.  Did you know that this is your forever home?  You don’t have to worry about living with anyone else.  Your mom loves you very much.

Marissa: Well, that’s good to hear.  I really like the food, and she is very nice to me.

Frances:  Mom says you don’t like the back of your neck touched.  Why is that?  

Marissa: I’m afraid she’s going to grab me and take me back to that doctor place or somewhere else that could be worse.  

Frances:  Remember, Mom loves you and would never do anything to hurt you, unless it is a health issue like your teeth were. 

Marissa: Yeah, I heard you say that, but you never know.

Frances:  I assure you, Mom has no intention of you being hurt unnecessarily – only due to a medical issue and she says you are healthy as can be.  So maybe you can let Mom touch you on your neck without you getting upset? 

Marissa:  Well, maybe occasionally, but not every day.

Frances:  Ok, I think that is a good compromise.
Mom says you are very hyperactive, what do you say?

Marissa: I have lots of energy.  I feel good and as you said I am healthy, just being a cat who likes to run, climb and jump around. 

Frances:  Well, that is good to hear. Are you interested in having another cat as a companion or are you happy being an only cat?

Marissa:   Hmmm, I never thought of that before.  I really do like being here on my own, but then the thought of a younger girl could be very nice too.  Maybe it will bring out my motherly tendencies and quiet my activities down a bit.  

Frances:  I’ll let mom know your preference for a younger girl kitty.  Is there anything you want to tell Mom? 

Marissa: Please tell her thank you for rescuing me and taking the time to get to know me and my desires and preferences.  She really is a sweet soul, and I do love her very much.  I was afraid to say that before because I didn’t know for sure if I was staying, but now that I know, I am so very happy to say that to her.  

Frances:  Thank you, Marissa.  I will be talking with Mom shortly. Bye for now.

Marissa:   Bye and thank you for talking with me, I really appreciate you doing this for me and my mom.

Frances:  You’re very welcome, Marissa.
 

For the Love of Animals,

Frances

Bucky Smells the Roses

Bucky Smells the Roses

Since his dad passed, Bucky has become much more aggressive toward other dogs and people.  His mom asked me to have a chat with him to find out what was going on with him.   #AnimalCommunication 

Bucky, a Jack Russell/Chihuahua mix, was adopted by my client and her husband 7 years ago when he was about 3 years old. Four years ago, as her husband’s health declined, he and Bucky became very close.  Since her husband’s passing, Bucky has become much more aggressive toward other dogs and people.

Here’s a bit of our session:

Frances:  Hi Bucky – how are you?  

Bucky:  I’m ok, why?

Frances:  Your mom asked me to talk with you, is that ok?

Bucky:  Yeah, sure, anything for Mom – she’s so good to me.  I miss my dad, but I think she does too.

Frances:  Yes, she does – and thank you for stepping up when he passed.  She needed you as much as you needed her.  Why do you bark so much when you see or hear other animals?
 
Bucky:  I'm protecting her.  You know, get them before they get you.

Frances:  I see.  How about seeing them as friends first unless they show you otherwise?  You can relax on your walks instead of being on guard and ready to attack?

Bucky: I never thought of it that way.  I thought it was my job to protect her.

Frances:   Well, it is your job to protect her when there is danger.  During your walks other friendly people walk their friendly dogs so there is no danger.  No need to bark at them.

Bucky: Oh, I see what you are saying.  It would be nice to relax and just smell everything without concern of the others around us, unless I see danger, right? 

Frances:  Yes, that is right.  Only when you see a danger can you bark.

Bucky: OK, I think I can try that the next time we are out walking.

Frances:  And stay by mom’s side as much as possible.

Bucky: Oh ok, I will try that too.  That’s a lot to remember.

Frances:  Your mom can remind you on your walks so you don’t forget.  

Bucky: OK, that will help.

Frances:  Good that will help mom too.  Why do you bite the heels of anyone wearing boots?

 Bucky: The first people I lived with wore boots and they would step on me all the time.

Frances:  Did they ride horses?
 
Bucky:  Yeah, those big animals they rode and didn’t care about me, so I ran off when they weren’t looking.  They didn’t care about me at all.

Frances:  Please don’t bite the heels of the people that come to see Mom.  They are not going to hurt you or Mom.  They are friendly and Mom would never let them take you.   This is your forever home and Mom loves you very much.
  
Bucky: Thank you for telling me that.  I just wasn’t sure if Mom would get tired of me and give me away.  

Frances:  Honey, mom would never do that to you, I promise.  

Bucky:  Oh, that makes me happy and relieved.  I really wasn’t sure after Dad left us if she really wanted to keep me or not.  

Frances:  Mom loves you and like I said earlier she needs you as much as you need her.

Bucky:  Thank you, I just needed to hear it again.  

Frances:  You’re welcome, Bucky.  What do you think about Mom getting a cat?

Bucky:  Why would she want to do that?  Am I not good enough?  

Frances:  Yes, of course you are.  Cats tend to be more cuddly and soft and sometimes we humans need that too in a companion.
 
Bucky:  Oh, well let me think about it more and I’ll get back to you. 

Frances:  Ok, I’ll be talking to mom soon.  Bye for now.  

Bucky:  Bye and thank you for talking with me.  

Frances:  You’re very welcome, Bucky.

For the Love of Animals,

Frances

 

A Perch in the Window

Jim is a big 10-year-old ginger male tabby who was a big morning talker.  His housemate, Dell, was a 5-year-old small female calico who disappeared about a year ago.  Jim’s mom was wondering if he was lonely and would welcome a new friend.

Frances:  Hi Jim – how are you?

Jim:  I’m ok, why?

Frances:  Mom asked me to talk with you, is that ok?

Jim:  Sure, why not?

Frances:  Great. Why do you talk a lot in the morning?

Jim:  I’m trying to tell Mom about my dreams – dreams I had that night and dreams for the future, lots and lots of dreams.

Frances:  Well, you are welcome to tell me about some of your dreams if you like.

Jim:  Oh, cool – uh, ok.  Let’s see.  I want to live in a castle in the sky, have all the food and birds to play with and my mom will be the queen of the sky.

Frances:  Well, that is quite the picture of dreams.  How about your dreams here on earth?  Would you like to have a companion? 

Jim:  Naw, I’m ok being the only cat now.  I’ve gotten used to having all the attention for myself. I don’t have to share my food or toys or windows or anything for that matter. 

Frances:  Were you and Dell friends?

Jim:  Not really friends but we tolerated each other.  Dell liked to do more exploring than me.  I guess that’s why she isn’t here anymore.  Just tried to go too far, and an animal bigger than her took her away.

Frances:  Is that what she told you after she was in spirit?

Jim:  Yeah, she came back to warn me not to do what she did.

 Frances:  That was kind of her to warn you.

Jim:  Yeah, she was a good girl, we were just different.

Frances:  Jim, would you like to tell your mom anything?

Jim:  Please tell Mom I love her very much and all that she does for me.  I do like watching the birds outside, so can I have a perch by the window?

For the Love of Animals,

Frances

 

I am Always With Him in his Heart

 

I recently did a reading for a client who wrote:  

"This will be for my girl, Jessie. She was a beautiful American Eskimo. She came into my life in 2001. We rescued each other. We were together until just before Christmas 2012. She was possibly about 14 when she passed."

 Frances:  Hi Jessie – your dad wants to talk with you.  Is that ok?

Jessie: Of course, anything for Dad, he’s the best.  He was such a good man to me.  I never wanted for anything.  He knew when I was unhappy or in pain.  He did everything right for me.  What was right for him was right for me.  He didn’t have to explain anything to me about any actions he had to take, I understood it was always for our best interest.

Frances:  Thank you, Jessie.  Were you in pain at the end?

Jessie: I had some pain but Dad made sure it was at a minimum.  He always knew and was so good and caring to me.  

Frances:  Are you taking care of someone else now? 

Jessie:  Well, not in the physical world, but from here we can assist many at the same time.  When Dad thinks of me a part of my energy is there with him.  I hear him and I see him. Sometimes I jump on the bed with him so he can feel me with him.  I don’t think he realizes that that is really me with him, not a dream.

Frances:  Oh, I’m sure that will make Dad happy to hear that. Were you concerned about any choices made by Dad?

Jessie: I knew if it was best for Dad, it is best for me.  I just want Dad to be happy.  I know he misses me in the physical sense, but I am always with him in his heart.

Frances:  Is there anything else you want to tell your dad? 

Jessie: Please tell Dad how much I love him and want him to be happy with his life just as it is.  There is nothing more to ask for or prove to anyone.  He is a kind and generous man who just needs to love himself as much as he loves me.  Please take care of yourself and give yourself some treats – not the ones you gave me of course, but you know what I mean.  My beautiful dad, I love you.  

Frances:  Thank you, Jessie for your beautiful message.  

Jessie: Thank you for giving me the opportunity to talk with my dad.

Frances:  My pleasure, Jessie.

For the Love of Animals,

Frances

Tattoo Surprise!

Roby is a 15-year-old male Chihuahua who had failing health. My client contacted me to check in with Roby to find out that he was indeed, ready to go. I always have a conversation with the pet before the appointment with my client and I then read the information to the client during the appointment.

In the initial session, Roby told me: “Please let Mom know I am ready to go when she is.  I will always be in her heart and when she thinks of me, I will be there beside her to guide her as the little pup on her shoulder.”   I took that as a metaphorical answer, as a symbol of his love always being with his mom. When we did our Zoom call, I noticed my client was adorned with several tattoos. I asked her if she was thinking about getting a tattoo of Roby on her shoulder. That is exactly what she was planning on doing but didn’t know if he wanted a paw or his picture.

Roby was enthusiastic and said, “Yes, I want my picture on her shoulder". My client replied she knew exactly which picture she would have tattooed on her shoulder. This was a first for me. It was very exciting for me to share both of their wishes, and do the right thing for each other. 

For the Love of Animals,

Frances

Don't Worry - Be Happy!

Patsy is a 14-year-old Havanese female dog who seemed very anxious, generally at night, pacing back and forth.  On car rides with Dad to her physical therapy water treatments for her back leg, she gets very anxious, panting heavily and jumping between seats, making it very unsafe for her dad to drive with her in his lap to calm her down.

Here’s part of our conversation: 

Frances:  Mom and Dad asked if I would talk with you, is that ok?

Patsy:  Sure, anything for mom and dad.  I love them very much.  I know I am getting older; my hearing is gone, and my eyesight is blurry.  I feel ok, I suppose, nothing to complain about, but I do know my time is limited.  I don’t want them to do anything special to extend my life and will do my best to go on my own when the time is right.  Not yet, but you know what I mean.  I’m glad I have this opportunity to tell them how much I have loved our life together.  They are the best mom and dad I could have ever had, especially in my later years – the food is so good!  I get special treatment, and I love it! 

Frances:  Thank you, Patsy.  When you pace in the evenings, what are you wanting from your mom and dad?

Patsy:  I get anxious at night because I am afraid that I won’t wake up in the morning. 

Frances:  What makes you think you won’t wake up in the morning? 

Patsy:  I had a dream not long ago and one of the previous dogs came to say I was going to join him soon.  He didn’t say when, so it just makes me nervous. 

Frances:  Ok, so the dog in the dream said you would be joining him – but until you do, how about just settling in with mom and dad and enjoying their company?  It’s not like you can control it so why pace and worry about it?

Patsy:  Hmm, I get what you’re saying.

Frances:  Just remind yourself to enjoy the moment with mom and dad.  If you start to get anxious, just say to yourself, “I am safe with mom and dad.”) 

Patsy:  Ok, I’ll try that, thank you.

Frances:  You’re very welcome, Patsy.  When mom leaves the house, she goes to work and then she comes home.  She always comes back.  She is safe at work and will be home before dinner.  Dad is there to keep you safe and happy; Mom will come back when she gets off work. Does that make sense?

Patsy:  Yes, it does – I just don’t understand why she has to leave, why can’t she work from home?

Frances:  Her work requires her to physically go to the building of her work.

Patsy:  Oh, ok, I guess she has to go then.


Frances:  Yes, she does. Why do you pant so much when you go on car rides?

Patsy:  I never know where we are going to go, if they are taking me someplace and not picking me up, what if they don’t pick me up?

Frances:  I will make sure Mom and Dad tell you where you are going to ease your mind.  You will always be picked up unless your mom and dad leave you overnight for special care or if they go out of town and can’t take you.

Patsy:  Ok, as long as they tell me, that will help.

Frances:  I realized you can’t hear so I will suggest that they talk to you in their thinking voice, like I am doing right now.  You will be able to hear them, but they may not be able to hear what you are telling them, so don’t get upset if they don’t hear you. 

Patsy:  Oh, ok, that sounds good.

Frances: I will talk with Mom and Dad a bit later this morning, by for now.

Patsy:  Bye and thank you for talking with me.

Frances:  My pleasure Patsy.

During the appointment, for an attitude adjustment before the car ride to therapy, I encouraged Dad to show Patsy to be happy and excited about going to play in the water with her therapist.  At night, to calm her down, ask her (in their thinking voice) to join them in sitting quietly and watching TV.

A week later I received an update from Dad:

Re:  Patsy Update

Hi Frances!

I wanted to update you on Patsy and her progress since we met last.

The panting and walking around in the living room at night is much better. She spends more time with us lying down and relaxing while watching TV. There have been a couple of times she has still gone back to her old behavior but much better. We are trying to send her a picture of her lying down and relaxing with us.

The car ride to the physical therapy place last Wednesday was night and day. I told her this would be a fun car ride, and she could lie down on the blanket (it would be OK and safe) or look out the window like you used to do. She didn’t jump back and forth; she was shaking a little bit, but not like before. She looked out the window a couple of times, and she enjoyed it with a smile on her face. Even the therapist noticed a difference in that she wasn’t as nervous.

So, thank you for helping us talk (quiet voice) to Patsy. I know it is a work in progress. We will keep working on it and keep you posted.

Take Care, 

J and K

For the Love of Animals,
Frances

Buddy Opens Up about His Past

Buddy is a 16-year-old male Westie (West Highland White Terrier) who was adopted in 2021. My clients wanted to know about his former owners and why he needed a new home.

Frances:  Hi Buddy – how are you? 

Buddy:  I’m ok, why?

Frances:  Your mom and dad asked if we could talk, is that ok?
  
Buddy: Sure, why not.

Frances: What was your life like before you came to live with Mom and Dad?
 
Buddy: Before I came here, I lived with an older couple.  They didn’t walk or play much with me, so we did a lot of sitting and watching the thing in the box.

Frances: Is the thing in the box with moving pictures?

Buddy: Yes

Frances: Ok, we call that a television, or TV for short.

Buddy:  Yeah that’s what it was.  They were very nice to me, but it was really loud sometimes.

Frances: I suspect they couldn’t hear very well so they had the volume up.  

Buddy: You’re probably right.  The man went away and didn’t come back and then I found the lady on the floor one morning.  It scared me, so now I follow my mom around to make sure she is ok.  

Frances:   I’m sorry that happened to you.  Unfortunately, as people get older, they sometimes get sick and pass away.  So, you don’t have to worry about your mom – she’s much younger and doing well.  Plus, your dad is there to take care of you too.

Buddy:  You sure?  

Frances: Well, I’m as sure as I can be, but I’ll check in with Mom and Dad when we talk in a little bit.
 
Buddy: Ok, thanks.

Frances: Do you want to spend more time with other dogs, or is it the caregivers at the doggy daycare that you like?  

Buddy: I guess I like people better.  I was never around other dogs much, except the place with the cages, before coming home with Mom and Dad.  

Frances:  Is there any place that you were taken by your previous mom and dad that you would like to go to?  

Buddy: They didn’t take me anywhere except the doctor and the groomer.  Towards the end, the groomer was less and less.  I guess I just know about watching TV.  I would like to be outdoors more and see beyond my own surroundings.

Frances: Is there anything you would like to tell your mom and dad?

Buddy: Please tell them that I love them very much and thank you for bringing me into your home.  I know I’m not your typical dog, but I’m happy just as I am.

Frances: I am glad you are happy Buddy.  I’ll be talking with your mom and dad soon.  Bye for now.

Buddy:  Bye and thank you for talking with me.  

Frances: You’re very welcome, Buddy.
 

For the Love of Animals,
Frances
 

Pillow Talks

Pillow is an 8-year-old female chihuahua mix rescue with whom I recently had the pleasure of speaking. She was a bit confused when I first tuned in. Here’s a portion of our conversation:

Frances:  Hi Pillow – how are you?

Pillow:  I’m ok, why? Am I in trouble?

Frances:  Honey, why would you think you were in trouble? 

Pillow:  I don’t know, but I’m afraid I’ll be taken someplace else like the previous people did. Am I staying?

Frances:  Pillow, you are staying. This is your forever home. Your mom loves you very much, so you have nothing to fear. You have a mom, a home, food and love forever.  How does that feel?

Pillow:  Oh, I am so happy to hear this. Are you sure?

Frances:  Yes, Pillow, I am sure. Can you tell me about your life before you came to live with mom?

Pillow:   First, I was with a family with little people, [kids] and they kept us outside. Little by little each of us left with other people. I was the last one and they kept me for a bit and then they had to leave so they took me to a place where other dogs were. It was ok as I was fed regularly, but not much else. It wasn’t too long before I went to live with Mom.

Frances: Thank you for sharing your life before you met Mom. Do you like your housemates Molly and Rusty?

Pillow:  Yes, they are ok. Are they staying too?

Frances: Yes, honey everyone is staying, just like you.

Pillow:  Oh, I’m so glad, I was afraid to get too close in case anyone had to leave. It hurt so much to get close and then never see them again.

Frances:  Since you have been with Mom, you had a brother who passed away. Do you miss him?

Pillow:  Actually, he still comes around and checks in to be sure we’re all getting along. He was kind of the ruleskeeper and oversaw us all.

Frances:  How do you feel about Mom’s boyfriend, Bob?

Pillow:  He’s ok as long as he keeps mom happy. I just want her to be happy. She takes such good care of us. Why does she have to leave us during the day and sometimes at night?

Frances:  That’s what people do – they go to places like work, shopping, the theatre – places dogs can’t go. She would bring you if she could – but with all of you, that would be a bit hard on her. Does that make sense?

Pillow:  Yeah, it does.

Frances:  Is there anything you want to tell your mom? 

Pillow:  Please tell her I love her very much and I am so happy to hear that I am staying. I kind of held back my feelings not knowing if I was going to stay or not, so now I’m all in. Thank you so much for choosing me and taking me home with you. I’m forever grateful. From your forever dog, Pillow. Oh, I like how that sounds!

For the Love of Animals,

Frances

 

New Kid in Town 🐱🐈‍⬛

 

I recently had a session for a client with two cats.  This is how it went. 

Frances:  Hi Sally – how are you?
Sally:  I’m ok, why?
Frances:  Your mom asked me if I would talk with you, is that ok?  
Sally:  Yeah, I guess so, what about?  
Frances:  Do you like your new family?  I understand you have been there for about a year.
Sally:  It’s ok, but why did that other cat have to come too?
Frances:  Missy needed a home just like you did.  She is now your sister, why can’t you be nice to her?
Sally:  Why should I be nice to her?  She’ll take all my food.  
Frances:  There will always be enough food for you and Missy.  Your mom will always ensure you are both taken care of with a roof over your head and food in your tummies.  Do you know that you are loved, and this is your forever home?  
Sally:  What do you mean by “forever home”?  I’ve never been in one home for very long at all.  I’d get in a fight and that was it, I was moved to another place, then another, then another.  I don’t trust anyone anymore and that’s a fact.
Frances:  I’m sorry you haven’t had the kind of life you deserve.  But you do know if you’ll allow your mom to love you like you deserve to be loved you have it now.  A forever home is where you will stay for the rest of your life.  You will have the same home with your mom and sister named Missy.  This is your forever family, and it is there for you to open your heart and love and be loved.  Does that make sense? 
Sally:  I think so but how can I believe you?
Frances:  Just give it time.  You don’t have to take my words only, just allow each day to unfold with the knowing that you are loved, you have plenty of food in your tummy, and a roof over your head for your safety.  Can you do that?  
Sally:  I suppose I can try.  
Frances:  Good for you, that’s taking a positive step forward.  One step at a time, right?
Sally:  Yeah, ok – I see what you’re doing here.  I know I’ve put up a good wall to protect myself, I’ve had to.  Nobody did anything for me just because they wanted to.  I always felt like a burden, and they let me know it.  I liked being outside because then I didn’t have to deal with the people and their problems.  They yelled and screamed all the time at each other, and I just got in the way.  I do have to say my life here is nothing like that and I really do appreciate all that I am given, really, I do.  I was afraid it would be a repeat of the past and I would be moving on to another place, so I didn’t want to get my hopes up and open my heart just to get broken again, so I stopped trying.  I see that it is different this time and now that you mention it, I do feel I can relax more and allow the love they have to offer to sink in.  Yeah, even with Missy, I think I can do that too.  Thank you for talking with me, I do appreciate your words very much.
Frances:  Thank you, Sally.

 

For the Love of Animals,
Frances

Tough Love

 

Jerry is a 3-year-old male domestic short hair black cat who started attacking his housemates, other cats: Boo-boo, Sparkle and Jody. His mom wanted to know what was going on with him.

Frances: Hi Jerry – how are you?
Jerry: I’m ok, why? Who wants to know?
Frances: Your mom, Mary asked me to talk with you, is that ok?
Jerry: Yeah, I suppose so. [Sounds like a tough guy.]
Frances: Why are you beating up on your housemates?
Jerry: Like who?
Frances: Boo-boo, Sparkle and Jody.
Jerry: Aw, they’re just pussies – they can’t stand up for themselves. I’m trying to toughen them up.
Frances: Why do they have to be toughened up?
Jerry: To get along in the real world they have to be
tough.
Frances: Jerry, your real world is your home with your loving family – they do not have to be tough, nor do you. All you need is to love; love is what your world is all about.
Jerry: That’s not what I see on the TV – it’s rough out there.
Frances:  But Jerry, what you see on the TV is make believe, it’s not real. Your life is your home and your loved ones, not those on the TV.
Jerry: You mean they aren’t going to come in and get us from the box?
Frances: No honey – the images you see on that box is called a TV. They are just like the pictures on the walls that don’t move. They are not real and cannot jump off the wall or out of the TV. Does that make sense?
Jerry: Are you sure?
Frances: Yes, honey, I am sure. Actually, I am positive that your family is safe, and nobody is coming out through the TV.
Jerry: You sound pretty adamant about that, so I guess I’ll just wait and see for myself.
Frances: I promise it won’t happen, but in the meantime while you wait and see, please do not attack your housemates, they are perfect as they are. Just stay loving and kind to everyone in your home, including your housemates.
Jerry: Hmmm, I guess I could do that, but I’m not going to be a sissy if something does come through that box.
Frances: I understand you are not a sissy, but you can be strong and kind at the same time. You are perfect as you are, and mom would like you to be the kind and loving cat she knows you can be. Can you do that?
Jerry: Yeah, I suppose so. I was just trying to prepare everyone in case of a problem, you know?
Frances: Yes, I understand, but you now know that isn’t going to happen, right?
Jerry: Yeah, I get it. I guess I can calm down more, right?
Frances: Yes, you can relax and play with your housemates in a kind and loving way.
Jerry: That sounds pretty good. I think I’ll try that approach. Thank you for explaining this box to me.
Frances: You’re very welcome, Jerry.

My client told me it started when her roommate would play very aggressive video games and Jerry would sit and watch. Luckily the roommate is no longer living there so they can return to being a peaceful and loving home.

For the Love of Animals,
Frances

💖 Love From A Grateful Client 💖

My client W, contacted me regarding her two 11+ years old cats – siblings Stuart and Sheldon. She and her partner P were overwhelmed by grief as two months ago Stuart became sick and never made it back home from the vet’s visit. Sheldon had been crying pretty much non-stop, missing Stuart so much. I have found my clients have their pets’ photos on their phone, computer and all around the home. My suggestion is to ease the length of the grieving and continual impact. For example, every time the phone rings the deceased pet’s picture glares in front of them. I relate this to a record turning and the needle digs in and digs in a little more each time. (I know – I’m dating myself for those who remember records.) My client sent me this email one week after our session and gave me permission to share it with you, my readers.

Re: Telephone Consult

Client: "Dear Frances, I hope this email finds you in good health and warm!!
I had to reach out to give you an update on our household since your intervention on 01/07/2024. As soon as we said goodbye and the call ended, I immediately changed the picture icon of Stu and Sheldon I’ve used to access YOUTUBETV at the front door.
Of course, I still “see” Stu & Sheldon at the door, but I did find the new icon I selected to be calming. I also rearranged the memory area in the kitchen which provided Sheldon with access to overhang counter top. He was again walking that counter later that evening!

Frances: I realized the crying from Sheldon was not only missing Stuart, but he wanted to speak to someone telepathically like he did with his brother as he was losing his hearing.

My client confirmed she wore hearing aids and I do find our pets take on many of our body’s weaknesses and illnesses. I instructed my client to speak to him in her thinking voice. She may not hear what he had to say back to her as I do, but it comforted him nonetheless.

Client: I also began to communicate with Sheldon telepathically within 30 minutes of the end of the phone call. I’m improving with each day I do see Sheldon responding to my “mind voice”. P is using the technique, too. In fact, she went on your website and purchased your online pet communicator class!

The greatest improvement has been Sheldon! We can’t believe the change that has occurred! He was so quiet and calm. He entered the office (that’s where our conversation occurred) after the call ended and sat in the doorway, looking back and forward between P and me. He approached me, rubbing his face and head on the legs, looking up at me without any vocalization! He then walked to P and the same interaction occurred!

We have determined that Sheldon’s crying/vocalization has been reduced by 80-90%!! It is amazing!!! You are amazing!!! The talk you had with Sheldon really changed the course of his interactions with us! I truly believe he has been relieved of the overwhelming duty and responsibility of managing all of our grief and I think at the
determent to his grief!

I cannot express the relief I have felt since the burden was lifted from me after hearing from Stu and that he was happy I made the decision I did. Two nights before I was to take him in to the vet to have an abdominal tap to withdraw fluid, we were in bed and I was talking to him. As I petted and stroked him, I promised him I would not prolong his life to make me happy. And that he could trust me. That’s when I decided the vet visit wasn’t for tapping his abdomen. As a RN, I knew the signs & symptoms of an endless treatment without cure. I told him my decision and we slept soundly.

Your special talent is amazing and the transformation of the entire household has been likewise amazing. I waited to contact you with the success to ensure the changes weren’t transient. Well, we believe the changes are permanent and we are so grateful for meeting you 10 years ago and your extraordinary talent.

We have told friends and family who have pets about your abilities. In fact, one of our friends has a parrot that has been with her for 31 years! The parrot is not doing well and I thought she might appreciate using your talents. She is seriously considering the offer.

Thank you so much!

Health and peace to you,
W & P, Sheldon and Stuart

For the Love of Animals,

Frances 

Starting Anew – Being Grateful for You

Starting Anew – Being Grateful for You

With the start of the new year, I am grateful for my clients both past and present.  I am so surprised when after many years have passed, my clients reappear with new and grateful pets that they have rescued and brought into their family.

Rescued animals start anew when they come to a new home. They don’t know where they are or how long they are going to stay. When I tell them this is their forever home, they are so relieved.  They are so grateful to have food in their stomachs, a roof over their head and the warmth of a loving home.  They have memories of days past, so good and some not so good.  I assure them that their new mom or dad loves them very much and are so happy to have them join their family home.  When they first come to a new home, they are unsure of the situation, the rules of the home and what is expected of them.  From past experiences, they may act in an odd way that seems out of place.  They tell me it is what their first mom wanted from them, so they didn’t think it was odd at all.  I let them know that their new mom would rather that they not do this behavior, but to do something specifically different so they know what is expected of them.  Once explained the “what” and “why” it makes sense to them and how in their new life they can please their new mom (or dad).  They are just truly happy to have a safe and healthy home to live in for the rest of their lives. 

Blessings to you and your family (furry, feathered, two-legged or four) in the new year and talk with you again soon.

For the Love of Animals, 

Frances

 

💕 Bring a Bit of Love to Their Day❤️

After all the years I have been speaking with the animals, I learned something new from Zeus.

Zeus is an 8-year-old male golden retriever.  My client wanted to know:  Who is leading and/or speaking to him when he takes me on our walks to meet people and see places?

Zeus' Message to his Mom:

When we are out and about each person or pet is generating energy, even if they are not speaking out loud.  This energy can be from their thoughts and feelings, about their life or about their grocery list.  When there is someone that is sad, I like to go to them to help distract them from their sadness and hopefully cheer them up at least for that moment in time.  Many dogs have fears while out walking, especially the smaller ones.  Bigger people and dogs scare them – the people might step on them accidentally and the bigger dogs can be scary and overwhelming.  I try to show the smaller dogs that some of us are very friendly, and we don’t mean any harm – we are just bigger than them.  The smaller dogs tend to be appreciative and seem to carry themselves with a bit more confidence than before we met.  I like to go to elderly people who are by themselves to bring a bit of love to their day.

Frances:  Zeus, you are a wonderful and positive furry buddy, aren’t you?

Zeus: I try to be, I think that’s why I am here with Mom.  She allows me to kind of make my own path when we are out and about.

Frances:  Is there anything you want to tell mom?

Zeus:  Please tell mom I love her so very much.  She is my perfect person to share this life with.  I love and honor her every day.  There is nothing more Mom needs to do for me that she isn’t already doing. 

Frances:  Thank you, Zeus.  I’ll be talking with you and mom soon.  Bye for now.

Zeus:  Bye and thank you for talking with me.  This isn’t something I’ve been able to do, so this is very cool.

Frances:  My pleasure, Zeus.  Talk to you soon.

 

For the Love of Animals,
Frances

 

Happy National Pet Day!

April 11th is National Pet Day which is a day dedicated to encouraging the adoption of orphaned pets into a loving furever home. #NationalPetDay #PetRescue #PetAdoption

Note from my client: 

Sweet Pea

"Sweet Pea was adopted from Frosted Faces in Ramona 5 months ago. Her wisdom DNA says she is 45% Chihuahua but I don’t see it. I’ve had estimates of her age as between 8 and 12 years old. She’s a girl. I would like to be able to find out how much she is able to see and hear. To my mind, she is blind and deaf but I know there’s something there."

My conversation with Sweet Pea:  
Frances:  Hi Sweet Pea – How are you?

Sweet Pea:  I’m ok [she sounds very timid].

Frances:  Do you know you are loved and safe with your new mom? She will never give you away or hurt you in any way. This is your forever home. You can relax and just enjoy the rest of your life.

Sweet Pea:  Are you sure?

Frances: Yes, honey, I am sure. She is a very nice lady, and you will always have food and a roof over your head. And. especially lots of hugs and kisses if you’ll let her.

Sweet Pea:  Oh, that sounds really good to me. Thank you for telling me that. I was afraid this was just another place I was staying until they get tired of me and then I go somewhere else.

Frances: Can I ask how you are seeing? How are your eyes?

Sweet Pea:  Well, not as good as I used to but I can see images that are big.  Because I don’t always hear people coming, I’m afraid I’ll get stepped on, so I like to go under stuff.

Frances: So, you don’t hear very well?

Sweet Pea:  Not really well, I feel like everyone mumbles and I feel the vibration on the floor when they come.

Frances: Your new mom suspected you had issues with your eyes and ears so now she knows. This is no problem for you or Mom, it can be expected when you get a little older. It happens to people too.

Sweet Pea:  So, she won’t be mad at me?

Frances: No honey, she won’t be mad at you. She knows you need some help to feel comfortable in your new home. Is there anything you would like to tell Mom?

Sweet Pea:  Thank you for taking me home with you. I wasn’t sure if you were going to keep me or not, so I guess I was holding back. That’s part of why I run away when you want to pick me up. I was afraid you were going to put me in a container and take me someplace else to live. I am happy you want to keep me. I will try to be the best dog I can be. I would like to be able to receive hugs and kisses from you. It’s been a long time since I trusted anyone to do that. Many times I was picked up and thrown around by kids who really didn’t know better and parents who didn’t pay attention. Please be patient and I will try to overcome my fears and insecurity. Talking with this lady really helped me to understand I’m staying. That’s a big deal to me. I’m so very happy to hear this news. Thank you again for doing this for me and I will be the best dog that I can be.

Frances: Thank you, Sweet Pea. That is a lovely message for your new mom. I will be talking with her shortly. Bye for now.

Sweet Pea:  Bye, thank you again for talking with me. I can already feel myself being more relaxed.

Frances: That’s wonderful to hear Sweet Pea. Talk again soon.

Sweet Pea:  Ok bye.

For the Love of Animals,
Frances