What is Billy Grumbling About?

Billy is a 5-year-old male mixed breed rescued dog, who my client has had for just over a year.

Frances:  Hi Billy – how are you? 

Billy:  I’m good, why?  Who are you?

Frances:  That’s good to hear.  Your mom asked me to talk with you, is that ok?

Billy:   Sure, why not?  Anything for Mom.

Frances:  Great.  Do you know that your family loves you very much?

Billy:   I hoped so, it seems like it.  Is there something wrong?

Frances:  No, not at all honey.  I’m just letting you know that this is your forever home. You can be assured that you will not be living with any other family.

Billy:  Oh, I’m so glad you told me that.  I was really not exactly sure, but hoped that it was true. YAY for me!

Frances:  I’m happy you are happy.  That will make Mom happy too.  So now I have questions that Mom is asking, is that ok?

Billy:    Yes, of course.

Frances:  When you sound like you are grumbling, what are you trying to tell Mom?

Billy:   It depends on where we are and what we are doing.  In the kitchen, I want food or a treat. Sometimes I’m just trying to tell her that I love her.  Or maybe I want to go for a walk, a ride or who knows what.

Frances:  So it’s never just one thing all the time?

Billy:  Yep, just like us talking now – it’s different words, only I can’t say them like this to her.

Frances:  I understand. Do you like living with your family?

Billy: What’s not to like?  I have food, love and a roof over my head.  I can’t ask for more than that, can I?

Frances:  Well, let’s say you could ask, but you won’t necessarily get it, you know?

Billy: Yeah, I get it.  But I can try, right?

Frances:  Of course you can.  What else would you like to do more of?

Billy:   Now that I know I am staying, I would like to go on more car rides.  I was always afraid I would be dropped off and left like my other family did to me.

Frances:  I’m sorry that happened to you.  That will never happen to you again.  If they drop you off someplace, they will always come back and get you.

Billy:  Thank you, that is good to hear.

Frances:  Does your body hurt anywhere?

Billy: No, I’m good.

Frances:  Why do you sleep by yourself at night?

Billy:  I always have so I didn’t know it was ok to join the others in the house.

Frances:  Even though Ruby was in the house before you, she looks up to you to follow your lead and behavior.  When you are on walks in public, can you be calmer?  Pretend everyone is a friend, unless they show you otherwise.  Staying calm and near your mom is best.  Just being next to Mom or whoever you are walking with, is the best way to stay calm.  No barking or grumbling when in public.  It is sometimes scary for others to understand you are being friendly.

Billy: But I am being friendly when I talk.  

Frances:  Yes, but others don’t understand that, so best to be quiet and calm while in public.

Billy:  Ok, I’ll try that next time.

Frances:  Thank you, Billy.  I’ll be talking with Mom a bit later this morning.  Bye for now.

Billy:  Bye and thank you for talking with me.

Frances: You’re very welcome.

For the Love of Animals,

Frances

 

By George, He's Got It!

 

George is an 8 year old Chihuahua mix who has a carefree life – even gets to ride in a stroller while at the store.  Here is a part of our conversation:

Frances:  Hi George – how are you?

George:  I’m good, why?

Frances:  Mom asked if I would talk with you.  Is that ok?

George:  Sure, anything for Mom.  

Frances:  Why is your eating pattern so erratic?

George:  I eat what I want when I want to.  Do I look like I’m starving? I don’t think so.  

Frances:  Good to know.  Why do you try to lick Mom’s face?

George:  I’m just trying to kiss her to show her how much I love her.

Frances:  Mom appreciates your effort to show her your love, but could you wag your tail or something like that instead?

George:  Sure, I could do that if she doesn’t want me to lick her face. Can I lick her hand?

Frances:  As long as it isn’t all the time.  Moderation is best, okay?

George:  Ok, I’ll try that.

Frances:  Are you happy with your family?

George:  What a silly question, of course I am.

Frances:  Is there anything you would change?)  

George: I want Mom to be home with me all the time.  I know that is unrealistic, but you did ask.  

Frances:  I’m glad you understood the question.  Yes, it is unrealistic.  Why do you bark at other dogs in stores?

George:  I show them how special I am. They have to walk, I get to ride.

Frances:  Please don’t bark at the other dogs, it can be scary to them and their mom or dad.)  

George:  Oh, I didn’t think of it that way.

Frances:  Only bark if there is danger to alert your mom, but please be quiet otherwise.

George:  Ok, I’ll be more conscious of that.

Frances:  Would you like another dog companion to join your family?

George:  No thank you.  I like being the focus of attention.  I’m not big on sharing.

Frances:  I’ll let Mom know. Is there anything you want to tell your family?

George:  Thank you for choosing me to join your family.  I am a happy dog and enjoy my life very much.  I love my mom so much.  

Frances:  Thank you, George.  I’ll be talking with Mom soon.  Bye for now.

George:  Bye and thank you for talking with me.  So to have a say in what happens in the family, you know?

Frances:  Yes, honey, I do understand.

For the Love of Animals,

Frances

Stop and Smell the Roses

My client contacted me regarding Billy, who is a 15 year old gray tabby male cat.  Billy is constantly meowing at her and her husband.  She says he has different meows and just wonders what he wants to tell them.
 
Frances:  Hi Billy – how are you?

Billy:  I’m good, why?

Frances:  Mom asked me to talk with you, is that ok?

Billy: Sure, anything for Mom.

Frances:  She says you meow to her in different ways and wants to know what you are saying. 

Billy:  It depends on what day and what I wanted to say. Sometimes it is to distract her from moving around so much.  She doesn’t stop to rest.  I want her to take better care of herself.  She worries so much about others and what she can do for them.  I want her to do something nice for herself, you know what I mean?

Frances:  Yes, Billy, I do know what you mean.  Humans can get so caught up in “doing” they forget about “being”.  Just “being” in the moment to stop, meditate, smell the flowers – even for just a few minutes – can make such a big difference.

Billy: Yes, that’s what I’m talking about.  You’re good! 

Thank you, Billy.  I appreciate the encouragement from you.  Is there anything you want to tell Mom?

Billy: Please tell Mom I love her so very much and appreciate the wonderful life she has given me.  I’m a lucky cat to have her as my mom.

Frances:  That’s a beautiful message for Mom.  I’ll be talking with her soon.  Bye for now.

Billy: Bye, and thank you for talking with me. 

Frances:  You’re very welcome, Billy.

For the Love of Animals,

Frances

 

Pete's New Home

Rehoming a pet after a loved one has passed is never easy, especially on those left behind to grieve their loss – including the cat. 

 Frances:  Hi Pete – I understand your mom passed away, and now you are living with your mom’s daughter and her cat, Suzy.

Pete:  Yes, that is what is happening with me.  So why do I have to stay here?

Frances:  Well, what would be the alternative?  Living on the streets without food, water, and a roof over your head.

Pete:  Yeah, I guess that could be a concern.  I do like to eat.  I just don’t like this pesky cat that is already here.

Frances:  Why don’t you like her?

Pete: She acts like I invaded her space.

Frances:  But really, that is what happened.  It isn’t her fault you are there.  It isn’t anybody’s fault – it is what life is.  Sometimes it is very unpredictable.  Can you stop fighting and pouncing on Suzy?  She hasn’t done anything to provoke this behavior.  Has she? 

Pete:  No, not really.

Frances:  Your home is big enough for both of you.  You don’t have to be in the same room at the same time.  Why don’t you sit near a window and watch the birds outside or play with the toys that are around?  Your new mom is upset that you are making it difficult for Suzy to relax with your aggressive behavior.  What do you think?

Pete:  Yeah, I have been a bit rough on her.  I know my new mom has been upset with me.  I’ve been upset too with Mom being gone, too.  I suppose I can stick to myself and allow my new mom to grieve without me adding to her worries.

Frances:  Mom would really appreciate that.  I can talk with you again if you need to get anything off your chest, so to speak.

Pete:  Thank you, I would like that.  Please tell  Mom I will do better.  I’m sorry I have been so aggressive to Suzy – I will do better.  I guess I need more time to grieve, too.  

Frances:  Thank you, Pete.  I’m rooting for you.  Be good to yourself, too.

Pete: I will. Thank you for talking with me.

Frances:  My pleasure, Pete.

For the Love of Animals,

Frances

 

Mikey Likes Him! 🐶

 Happy New Year to you all and wishing you a healthy and happy 2026.  This message in a recent session was so different than I had experienced in my 20+ years of speaking with the animals.  Mikey is a 3-year-old male small mixed terrier who had such a sweet surprise for his dad in our conversation. 

Frances:  Hi Mikey – how are you?

Mikey:  I’m good, why?

Frances:  Your dad asked me to talk with you.  Is that ok?

Mikey:  Sure, anything for dad.
  
Frances:  Do you see or hear spirit?

 Mikey:  Of course, I do – but you know that already or we wouldn’t be talking about it, right?

Frances: Well, this is true, but your dad asked me to ask you.  Do you see George?

Mikey:  Yes, he comes around to play sometimes.

Frances:  Did George have anything to do with finding you to join Dad in this journey?

Mikey:  Yes, of course he did.  Why do you ask questions you already know the answers to?  

Frances:  Because Dad asked the questions so I’m asking you for him.  Do you have anything you would like to tell Dad?

Mikey:  Please tell him what a wonderful soul he is.  I am so blessed to be on this journey with him. When he goes on exploring the universe, I am lucky to be a part of it too.  I am able to guide his spirit to the adventures of each and every day.  I am part of his spirit guide group, I guess is the best way to put it for you to understand.  When he is in a quiet space, physically and mentally, I find it is the easiest way to share with him, to guide him, and to send energy to him.  This is done subtly so as not to disturb him in any negative way.  He may feel lighter and more enlightened after our sessions, not realizing what I am doing with and for him.  We have done this in past lives together – him for me and me for him.  I cherish our times together dearly.  Thank you for the opportunity to share this with him in this lifetime together.  

Frances:  My pleasure, Mikey.  I will be talking to your dad a bit later today.  Bye for now.

Mikey:  Bye and thank you again.

For the Love of Animals,

Frances

The Cycle of Life

 

Sally was a 16-year-old small mixed-breed female dog who recently passed away, leaving behind her companion, George, an older male mixed-breed dog.  She had an interesting message about our life and transitions.

Frances:  Hi Sally – do you have a message for your mom and dad?

Sally:  Please thank them for all they did for me.  I had such a wonderful life with them.  I appreciate their patience and kindness towards the end.  I felt so bad making the messes – I couldn’t control my body functions anymore.  I told George it was time for me to go before I left my body.  I know he was sad, but I will keep coming around to keep him company when he is down and lonely.  He’ll be fine on his own.  It’s such an easy life for us with loving parents, good food, and a beautiful home.  I didn’t want to leave, but my body couldn’t continue.  

"We come into this world at times we are needed and leave when there are transitions in our caretakers’ lives.  This is the cycle of life we bring to humans.  Our short lives exist in the span of transitions.  Sometimes it is recognized by humans; sometimes it is so subtle, yet so powerful, as seen over time.  Mom and Dad will realize this in time and enjoy their time together, unburdened by caring for me.  I know they will say I wasn’t a burden because they are such kind people, but the reality was there, clear as day, and it was my time to leave.  Please let them know I will always love them and watch over them from near and afar.”

Frances:  Thank you, Sally – that was a very insightful message.
 

I am thankful for this year’s variety of opportunities and looking forward to what 2026 has to offer.  Wishing you a happy and healthy holiday season.  See you in 2026 with sparkles on top!
 

For the Love of Animals,

Frances

Marissa's Mom Loves Her

Marissa is a 7-year-old flame-point Siamese female cat who joined her mom about a year ago. She had been treated for an abscess on her neck before her adoption. After the adoption, her teeth had to be removed due to an autoimmune disease. She is now eating quite well and is at a healthy weight. She is quite aloof and doesn’t allow her mom to touch her neck without a fuss.

Frances:  Hi Marissa – how are you?

Marissa: I’m OK, why?

Frances,  Your mom asked me to talk with you.  Is that ok?

Marissa: I guess so, but who’s Mom?

Frances:  Mom is the lady who loves you, feeds you, and cares for you.  I refer to her as “Mom”.  

Marissa: Oh, I see.

Frances:  Do you know how much you are loved? 

Marissa: I guess so, not really sure what that means.

Frances:  Well, you are cared for and fed every day, and you don’t have to worry about anything, right?  

Marissa: Well, I worry she’s going to take me back to that place that hurt me.

Frances:  You mean the place with the doctor and helpers?

Marissa: Yeah, that place.  I don’t want to go there ever again.

Frances:  You will only go there if there is a medical reason to keep you healthy. 

Marissa: Oh, so not anytime soon?

Frances:  I don’t believe so, but I’ll ask Mom when we talk a bit later this morning.  Did you know that this is your forever home?  You don’t have to worry about living with anyone else.  Your mom loves you very much.

Marissa: Well, that’s good to hear.  I really like the food, and she is very nice to me.

Frances:  Mom says you don’t like the back of your neck touched.  Why is that?  

Marissa: I’m afraid she’s going to grab me and take me back to that doctor place or somewhere else that could be worse.  

Frances:  Remember, Mom loves you and would never do anything to hurt you, unless it is a health issue like your teeth were. 

Marissa: Yeah, I heard you say that, but you never know.

Frances:  I assure you, Mom has no intention of you being hurt unnecessarily – only due to a medical issue and she says you are healthy as can be.  So maybe you can let Mom touch you on your neck without you getting upset? 

Marissa:  Well, maybe occasionally, but not every day.

Frances:  Ok, I think that is a good compromise.
Mom says you are very hyperactive, what do you say?

Marissa: I have lots of energy.  I feel good and as you said I am healthy, just being a cat who likes to run, climb and jump around. 

Frances:  Well, that is good to hear. Are you interested in having another cat as a companion or are you happy being an only cat?

Marissa:   Hmmm, I never thought of that before.  I really do like being here on my own, but then the thought of a younger girl could be very nice too.  Maybe it will bring out my motherly tendencies and quiet my activities down a bit.  

Frances:  I’ll let mom know your preference for a younger girl kitty.  Is there anything you want to tell Mom? 

Marissa: Please tell her thank you for rescuing me and taking the time to get to know me and my desires and preferences.  She really is a sweet soul, and I do love her very much.  I was afraid to say that before because I didn’t know for sure if I was staying, but now that I know, I am so very happy to say that to her.  

Frances:  Thank you, Marissa.  I will be talking with Mom shortly. Bye for now.

Marissa:   Bye and thank you for talking with me, I really appreciate you doing this for me and my mom.

Frances:  You’re very welcome, Marissa.
 

For the Love of Animals,

Frances

Bucky Smells the Roses

Bucky Smells the Roses

Since his dad passed, Bucky has become much more aggressive toward other dogs and people.  His mom asked me to have a chat with him to find out what was going on with him.   #AnimalCommunication 

Bucky, a Jack Russell/Chihuahua mix, was adopted by my client and her husband 7 years ago when he was about 3 years old. Four years ago, as her husband’s health declined, he and Bucky became very close.  Since her husband’s passing, Bucky has become much more aggressive toward other dogs and people.

Here’s a bit of our session:

Frances:  Hi Bucky – how are you?  

Bucky:  I’m ok, why?

Frances:  Your mom asked me to talk with you, is that ok?

Bucky:  Yeah, sure, anything for Mom – she’s so good to me.  I miss my dad, but I think she does too.

Frances:  Yes, she does – and thank you for stepping up when he passed.  She needed you as much as you needed her.  Why do you bark so much when you see or hear other animals?
 
Bucky:  I'm protecting her.  You know, get them before they get you.

Frances:  I see.  How about seeing them as friends first unless they show you otherwise?  You can relax on your walks instead of being on guard and ready to attack?

Bucky: I never thought of it that way.  I thought it was my job to protect her.

Frances:   Well, it is your job to protect her when there is danger.  During your walks other friendly people walk their friendly dogs so there is no danger.  No need to bark at them.

Bucky: Oh, I see what you are saying.  It would be nice to relax and just smell everything without concern of the others around us, unless I see danger, right? 

Frances:  Yes, that is right.  Only when you see a danger can you bark.

Bucky: OK, I think I can try that the next time we are out walking.

Frances:  And stay by mom’s side as much as possible.

Bucky: Oh ok, I will try that too.  That’s a lot to remember.

Frances:  Your mom can remind you on your walks so you don’t forget.  

Bucky: OK, that will help.

Frances:  Good that will help mom too.  Why do you bite the heels of anyone wearing boots?

 Bucky: The first people I lived with wore boots and they would step on me all the time.

Frances:  Did they ride horses?
 
Bucky:  Yeah, those big animals they rode and didn’t care about me, so I ran off when they weren’t looking.  They didn’t care about me at all.

Frances:  Please don’t bite the heels of the people that come to see Mom.  They are not going to hurt you or Mom.  They are friendly and Mom would never let them take you.   This is your forever home and Mom loves you very much.
  
Bucky: Thank you for telling me that.  I just wasn’t sure if Mom would get tired of me and give me away.  

Frances:  Honey, mom would never do that to you, I promise.  

Bucky:  Oh, that makes me happy and relieved.  I really wasn’t sure after Dad left us if she really wanted to keep me or not.  

Frances:  Mom loves you and like I said earlier she needs you as much as you need her.

Bucky:  Thank you, I just needed to hear it again.  

Frances:  You’re welcome, Bucky.  What do you think about Mom getting a cat?

Bucky:  Why would she want to do that?  Am I not good enough?  

Frances:  Yes, of course you are.  Cats tend to be more cuddly and soft and sometimes we humans need that too in a companion.
 
Bucky:  Oh, well let me think about it more and I’ll get back to you. 

Frances:  Ok, I’ll be talking to mom soon.  Bye for now.  

Bucky:  Bye and thank you for talking with me.  

Frances:  You’re very welcome, Bucky.

For the Love of Animals,

Frances

 

Velma Learns to Chill

Velma is a 5-year-old female Doberman who has been part of her family since she was 14 weeks old.  Her mom was concerned about her aggressive behavior towards other animals, both on TV and during their walks.

Frances: Hi Velma – how are you?
Velma:  I’m good.
Frances: Mom asked me to talk with you, is that ok?   
Velma: Sure, anything for Mom.   
Frances: Why do you bark and get stressed when you see animals on TV? 
Velma:  I am telling them not to come in.  I’m protecting Mom.
Frances: I see.  The TV is just like a picture on the wall only it moves.  The animals or people you see can’t come out of the square frame.  It’s like a picture on the wall. You don’t need to stress and be concerned for your mom – they can’t come out of the frame.  Does that make sense?  
Velma:  Oh, I’m so glad you told me that.  I was really concerned when I saw people hurting each other, too.
Frances: I’m glad I could help you relax more while watching TV – it’s just like a moving picture on the wall. Why do you bark and act aggressively when you see dogs on your walks?  
Velma: I’m protecting Mom from the other dogs.
Frances: What if the other dogs were friendly? They are walking with their moms and dads, too.  There is no threat to anyone when you are walking with your mom.  Your actions create fear in others that is unnecessary.  How about walking next to Mom and pretending everyone is a friend, unless they show you otherwise? 
Velma:  Oh, I never thought about it like that.  I was always in protection mode.  You mean I can just walk regularly and not try to scare anyone?
Frances: Yes, that’s exactly what I am saying.  You can be a kind and friendly Velma, not the aggressive, scary Velma and even relax and enjoy your walks.  How does that feel?
Velma: That feels kind of different, but I think I could get used to it.  It takes a lot of energy being the scary one, you know?
Frances: Yes, I do understand.  So now you can relax and enjoy your walks, and Mom will enjoy them more too.

For the Love of Animals,

Frances

 

Lillie's Furever Home

While sharing a tea with my neighbor Teri, she mentioned our other neighbor Rebecca had recently (last Saturday and this was only Tuesday) adopted a dog from the local rescue shelter. She mentioned the dog was afraid and she wasn’t eating or drinking so Rebecca was really concerned about the new dog. I asked Teri if she would contact Rebecca. She was closer to her than I and suggest that I come over and speak with Lillie, the new dog. Rebecca was thrilled. She texted me and the next morning I went to see her new adopted dog Lillie.

When I arrived I realized she had weaned puppies very recently and was wearing a collar as she had been fixed prior to her adoption as well. I spoke with Lillie telepathically letting her know she was loved and safe and this was her new mommy and her new home. She was so surprised how quiet it was. She’s so used to the barking and yelling and all the stuff that goes on at the shelters. Lillie was moved to multiple shelters before she came to live with her new mom. I told her all the toys, all the food, all the water, even the comfy beds in the living room and the bedroom were all for her. She was so used to sharing. She was afraid she was gonna fight off another one just to be comfortable - poor baby. I did notice her water bowl was quite large so I suggested putting a smaller one as she seems to be so overwhelmed with things. The more contained that they can be the more she’ll get used to them. As Rebecca and I were talking, I noticed Lillie was getting more and more comfortable even to the point where she was laying, curled up in her bed with her back to us, not a care in the world. The next day, her mom texted me this: 

Hi Frances! Lillie is doing wonderfully - more relaxed, eating, and drinking her water. Thank you again!!! 

For the Love of Animals,

Frances

 

Why is That Other Cat Here?

Lucas and Simon are both recently rescued male cats.  Lucas has been with his mom for two months and Simon just joined the family two weeks ago.  It seems Lucas is not happy with another cat coming into his new home.  My client wrote:  "I don't know what to do. Tried asking/explaining nicely several times, talking more firmly while holding scruff, spray bottle, smacked his butt once in middle of the night. Separated them last night. Nothing stops him. I give him attention which he loves till he remembers Simon. Then he's off again." Frances's reading with Lucas: Frances:  Hi Lucas – Mom asked me to talk with you, is that ok? Lucas:   I guess so since I’ve got a lot to say.  Why is that other cat here?  Is he replacing me?  Why did she bring him here?  Is he staying?  Frances:  Ok, I hear you, Lucas.  Let me first assure you that you are staying, this is your forever home and Mom loves you very much.  So far so good? Lucas: Yeah, ok – go on. Frances:  When mom adopted you, you needed a home with love, food and a roof over your head, right? Lucas:  Yeah, so? Frances:  Simon, this new cat is in the same situation and Mom wants to add him to your household to be a companion for both you and her.  She realized she is not home for many hours at a time and this way you have someone to keep you company. Lucas:  So he’s not going to leave?  Frances:  No, he has no other place to go and there is so much love and food for the two of you.  Can you be nice and accepting of him instead of the aggression you are showing him?  He doesn’t deserve that.  He just wants to be part of the family.  What if he was first and then you came in to join the family and was treated like this, how would you feel? Lucas:  Well, when you put it that way, yeah I wouldn’t be very happy.  Okay, okay.  I get it. Frances:  So no more aggressive biting, attacking or anything else mean to Simon, right? Lucas:  Yeah, yeah – I’ll be nicer.  Please tell Mom I’m sorry, I’ll be better.  Maybe even share a toy or two.  But I keep my favorites.  Frances:  Thank you, Lucas.  Mom will be happy to see the two of you happy with her in the same room. Lucas:  I’ll see if I can do that for her.  Frances:  Thank you, Lucas.  Mom will be very appreciative. Lucas:  I understand, I will do better, I promise.  Frances:  I hope so because I will bug you again and again – like that voice that doesn’t stop. Lucas:  Wow, ok that’s pretty harsh, but I will, I promise.  Frances:  Again, thank you, Lucas.   My client updated me the next day after our session: "Lucas has been perfect since you and I spoke. Very affectionate and he invites Simon to play instead of forcing him. So far when they play he resists the urge to be too aggressive. I can see him stop and think for a moment, sometimes a result of a gentle word but not always necessary. So grateful and hopeful,  Catherine Darras." Now here’s the picture of Lucas (dark grey stripe tabby) and Simon (orange) sleeping peacefully together. For the Love of Animals, Frances

 

What's With the New Guy?

When bringing another pet into your home it is important to make sure your family is ready for the addition – and that means the pet who has been an only pet for all his life with you. 

My client has a cat named Homer, he is approximately 16 years old and was rescued 10 years ago.  He has been a single pet, although she tried to introduce other cats in the beginning, and he reacted badly. 

Lately she has befriended a cat, whom she named Dusty, who appeared on her hillside, and she’s been feeding him. He is now limping badly and she’s keeping him in a bedroom, separate from Homer. He is being neutered and his leg treated.

Here is my conversation with Homer:

Frances:  Hi Homer – how are you?

Homer:  I’m ok, why?

Frances:  Your mom asked if I would talk with you, is that ok?  

Homer:  Yeah, I suppose so. What about?

Frances:  You know she loves you very much, right?  

Homer:  Yeah, so?

Frances:  So, she would like to bring another cat to join your family.  He is living outside, and it isn’t safe for him due to the coyotes – the big mean dog like animals.  They eat cats and other animals as they don’t have a loving mom like you do.  

Homer:  So why are you telling me this?

Frances:  She would like you to accept the new cat and be kind to him.  There is plenty of food and love for both of you, you know that, right?  

Homer:  Yeah, I get that, but aren’t I enough?

Frances:  Yes, of course you are – you are more than enough.  But there is so much love for more and more kindness to share too.  He needs a safe place to live, and your mom would like you to be kind and accepting to this new cat. 

Homer:  Oh, I suppose so as long as he doesn’t get into my stuff.

Frances:  He’ll have his own stuff, but it would be nice of you to share some stuff.  

Homer:  Yeah, I suppose so.

Frances:  Thank you, Homer.  Would you like to tell your mom anything?  

Homer:  Please tell Mom I love her very much and sorry I’ve been making such a fuss over other animals coming inside.  I guess I was being kind of selfish.  I know what it’s like not having a loving family to care for you.  Thank you for all you do for me, and I guess we’re expanding the family – at least by one more.  I know I’m getting older and won’t be around forever so this might be a good fit to have another be there when it’s my time to go.  Not planning on anytime soon, but you know, thinking ahead as I don’t know when I’ll have this chance to talk to you like this.  

Frances:  Thank you, Homer – I know Mom will appreciate your change of heart.  Bye for now. 

Homer:  Bye and thank you for talking with me.

Frances:  My pleasure, Homer.

For the Love of Animals,

Frances

 

Raymond Misses his Dads

My client was concerned about his dog Raymond who is a 7-year-old male mini schnauzer mix. His husband passed away three years ago and has been working through his grief.  Throughout the years Raymond has occasionally urinated in the house. However, when my client returned from a recent vacation the occasional urinating had become a constant whenever he would leave him for any amount of time.  He had him medically checked for urinary tract infection, diabetes, kidney function and a complete blood panel. The results were all within normal ranges.

Here is a portion of the initial conversation with Raymond:

Frances:  Hi Raymond – how are you?

Raymond:  I’m ok, I guess.

Frances:  You guess?  What’s going on? 

Raymond:  I guess I’m bored.  I know I have toys, but I want to go outside and play with other dogs.  I want to go to a park with grass.  I like seeing other places, people and dogs.

Frances:  Is that why you are peeing in the house?  Are you mad at Dad for leaving you alone sometimes? 

Raymond:  Not just leaving me, but he doesn’t tell me where he is going and how long he’s going to be away.  Why can’t I go with him?  What’s wrong with me that he can’t take me with him?  I miss playing with my other dad.

Frances:  I’m sorry, Raymond – it’s hard on us when our dads pass away.  Does he ever come to visit?

Raymond: He used to but he stopped coming to visit us.

Frances:  Is that when you started peeing in the house more?

Raymond:   Well, kind of, yeah.  My dad went away and didn’t tell me anything, so I got mad.  Every time he leaves and doesn’t take me, I get mad.  It’s not fair.  What if something happens to him too?  What happens to me?

Frances:  Honey, I’m sorry you are upset with your dad for leaving you.  It scares you that he’s not coming back, right?

Raymond:   Yes, I get really scared I’ll be all alone.

Frances:  Raymond, your dad loves you and will always come back to you.  I will tell him how to tell you where he is going and when he is coming back so you won’t be scared for him to leave the house, ok?)

Raymond: Ok.  I guess I kind of got myself all worked up with worry, didn’t I?

Frances:  Yes, honey, I think you did, but that’s understandable when we get scared, we do things we don’t normally do – like peeing in the house, right?

Raymond:   Yeah.  I’m sorry.  I know it upsets dad.  Please tell him I’m sorry for that, ok?  

Frances:  Yes, honey, I will tell him.  Is there anything else you want to tell him?

Raymond:   Please tell him I love him so much and just get scared when he leaves the house.  Maybe he can take me sometimes?  I’ll be good, I promise.

Frances:  We will talk a bit later this morning.  Bye for now.

Raymond:   Bye and thank you for talking with me.

Frances:  You’re very welcome, Raymond.

During our appointment I shared with my client the way to share his comings and goings – not by hours of the clock, but by the actions of the day (breakfast, lunch, dinner, bedtime) i.e. “I’m going to go to dinner with Joe and I’ll be back before bedtime.”  In the case of overnight or vacation days I describe it as how many times the sun goes down i.e. “I will be going on a vacation and be back 7 times the sun goes down.  Aunt Susie will be staying here to make sure you have food and walks.”

I asked about the timing of the vacation and my client realized that on this trip he had released his grief of the loss of his husband.  His husband stopped coming around, so Raymond no longer was seeing him.  I assured Raymond that he didn’t love him any less, but dad no longer needed his energy to move forward in his life.

Two weeks later I received a follow-up email from my client:  Since our session two weeks ago, I have been using the time techniques you gave me, and there have only been 3 peeing accidents during this time. Thank you and I will keep using them.

For the Love of Animals,

Frances

 

Tattoo Surprise!

Roby is a 15-year-old male Chihuahua who had failing health. My client contacted me to check in with Roby to find out that he was indeed, ready to go. I always have a conversation with the pet before the appointment with my client and I then read the information to the client during the appointment.

In the initial session, Roby told me: “Please let Mom know I am ready to go when she is.  I will always be in her heart and when she thinks of me, I will be there beside her to guide her as the little pup on her shoulder.”   I took that as a metaphorical answer, as a symbol of his love always being with his mom. When we did our Zoom call, I noticed my client was adorned with several tattoos. I asked her if she was thinking about getting a tattoo of Roby on her shoulder. That is exactly what she was planning on doing but didn’t know if he wanted a paw or his picture.

Roby was enthusiastic and said, “Yes, I want my picture on her shoulder". My client replied she knew exactly which picture she would have tattooed on her shoulder. This was a first for me. It was very exciting for me to share both of their wishes, and do the right thing for each other. 

For the Love of Animals,

Frances

Ruby Watches Over Mom

My client’s dog Ruby crossed over in July. Her words were very comforting for her mom. Frances:  Hi Ruby – I understand you crossed over in July. How are you doing? Ruby:  Yes, I did. I’m much better now that I don’t need my body to get around.  I watch over Mom when she is sad and worried about me and if she did everything she was supposed to for me.  Please let Mom know I will always love her and tell her not to feel guilty about me and my passing. Everything happened the way it was supposed to.  I was ready to go and I knew it would be easier for her not to have me on her mind when she was supposed to be working. Unlike humans, we kind of know the process for crossing over and see our greeters ahead of time.  Fear is not a part of the process because we know what it will be like when we go.  The most concerning is leaving behind the human that has all those other feelings of guilt, fear and sadness.  I do come to help Mom when she is feeling those feelings and send her loving energy to replace them. Frances:  Mom wants to know if you hated the puppy. Ruby:  I didn’t hate the puppy, I knew it was my time to go and he was my replacement so to speak.  It’s normal not to want to be without a furry companion and I knew he would be there with her when I was gone.   Frances:  Are there signs you are giving Mom so she knows you are there?  Ruby:  Sometimes she feels me in bed with her but she thinks she's imagining it.  It’s me.  I want to give her the comfort of me being there with her. Frances:  Thank you, Ruby. Ruby:  Bye and thank you for doing this for Mom. Frances:  You’re very welcome, Ruby. For the Love of Animals, Frances

 

New Kid in Town 🐱🐈‍⬛

 

I recently had a session for a client with two cats.  This is how it went. 

Frances:  Hi Sally – how are you?
Sally:  I’m ok, why?
Frances:  Your mom asked me if I would talk with you, is that ok?  
Sally:  Yeah, I guess so, what about?  
Frances:  Do you like your new family?  I understand you have been there for about a year.
Sally:  It’s ok, but why did that other cat have to come too?
Frances:  Missy needed a home just like you did.  She is now your sister, why can’t you be nice to her?
Sally:  Why should I be nice to her?  She’ll take all my food.  
Frances:  There will always be enough food for you and Missy.  Your mom will always ensure you are both taken care of with a roof over your head and food in your tummies.  Do you know that you are loved, and this is your forever home?  
Sally:  What do you mean by “forever home”?  I’ve never been in one home for very long at all.  I’d get in a fight and that was it, I was moved to another place, then another, then another.  I don’t trust anyone anymore and that’s a fact.
Frances:  I’m sorry you haven’t had the kind of life you deserve.  But you do know if you’ll allow your mom to love you like you deserve to be loved you have it now.  A forever home is where you will stay for the rest of your life.  You will have the same home with your mom and sister named Missy.  This is your forever family, and it is there for you to open your heart and love and be loved.  Does that make sense? 
Sally:  I think so but how can I believe you?
Frances:  Just give it time.  You don’t have to take my words only, just allow each day to unfold with the knowing that you are loved, you have plenty of food in your tummy, and a roof over your head for your safety.  Can you do that?  
Sally:  I suppose I can try.  
Frances:  Good for you, that’s taking a positive step forward.  One step at a time, right?
Sally:  Yeah, ok – I see what you’re doing here.  I know I’ve put up a good wall to protect myself, I’ve had to.  Nobody did anything for me just because they wanted to.  I always felt like a burden, and they let me know it.  I liked being outside because then I didn’t have to deal with the people and their problems.  They yelled and screamed all the time at each other, and I just got in the way.  I do have to say my life here is nothing like that and I really do appreciate all that I am given, really, I do.  I was afraid it would be a repeat of the past and I would be moving on to another place, so I didn’t want to get my hopes up and open my heart just to get broken again, so I stopped trying.  I see that it is different this time and now that you mention it, I do feel I can relax more and allow the love they have to offer to sink in.  Yeah, even with Missy, I think I can do that too.  Thank you for talking with me, I do appreciate your words very much.
Frances:  Thank you, Sally.

 

For the Love of Animals,
Frances

Who's the Boss?

 

Marvin is a 6-year-old Goldendoodle with a very strong sense of self-importance and awareness.

When asked if he would like a dog brother or sister to join his family, he replied,

Marvin:  Hmmm, like a playmate that lives here? 
 
Frances:  It could be a playmate. 

Marvin:  That would be ok if they knew I was the boss.  They have to listen to everything I say, and I eat first, and I play first, and all the toys are mine.

Frances:  Well, don’t you think that would be a bit unreasonable to ask?  Sharing your home and life with another dog is a privilege.  You make it sound like everything is me and mine.  When another dog joins your family, a family shares what they have.

Marvin:  Well, I don’t think I want one then.  I don’t like sharing my stuff.  Besides, then I won’t get all the attention.  

Frances:  Why do you put mom and dad’s socks on your favorite stuffed animals?

Marvin:  I like the scent of mom and dad around when they are not here.  I like to share them with my favorite stuffed friends. My stuffed friends don’t get the same kind of love I get from them.

So, he does think of others, just not in the way we might expect.

Marvin:  I want to go on more walks and adventures to see new places and people.  I like to see new people; they are friendly to me because I’m so cute and I like the attention.

Frances:  Well, you do have a healthy opinion of yourself, you’re definitely not a wallflower.

 

For the Love of Animals,
Frances

Starting Anew – Being Grateful for You

Starting Anew – Being Grateful for You

With the start of the new year, I am grateful for my clients both past and present.  I am so surprised when after many years have passed, my clients reappear with new and grateful pets that they have rescued and brought into their family.

Rescued animals start anew when they come to a new home. They don’t know where they are or how long they are going to stay. When I tell them this is their forever home, they are so relieved.  They are so grateful to have food in their stomachs, a roof over their head and the warmth of a loving home.  They have memories of days past, so good and some not so good.  I assure them that their new mom or dad loves them very much and are so happy to have them join their family home.  When they first come to a new home, they are unsure of the situation, the rules of the home and what is expected of them.  From past experiences, they may act in an odd way that seems out of place.  They tell me it is what their first mom wanted from them, so they didn’t think it was odd at all.  I let them know that their new mom would rather that they not do this behavior, but to do something specifically different so they know what is expected of them.  Once explained the “what” and “why” it makes sense to them and how in their new life they can please their new mom (or dad).  They are just truly happy to have a safe and healthy home to live in for the rest of their lives. 

Blessings to you and your family (furry, feathered, two-legged or four) in the new year and talk with you again soon.

For the Love of Animals, 

Frances

 

💕 Bring a Bit of Love to Their Day❤️

After all the years I have been speaking with the animals, I learned something new from Zeus.

Zeus is an 8-year-old male golden retriever.  My client wanted to know:  Who is leading and/or speaking to him when he takes me on our walks to meet people and see places?

Zeus' Message to his Mom:

When we are out and about each person or pet is generating energy, even if they are not speaking out loud.  This energy can be from their thoughts and feelings, about their life or about their grocery list.  When there is someone that is sad, I like to go to them to help distract them from their sadness and hopefully cheer them up at least for that moment in time.  Many dogs have fears while out walking, especially the smaller ones.  Bigger people and dogs scare them – the people might step on them accidentally and the bigger dogs can be scary and overwhelming.  I try to show the smaller dogs that some of us are very friendly, and we don’t mean any harm – we are just bigger than them.  The smaller dogs tend to be appreciative and seem to carry themselves with a bit more confidence than before we met.  I like to go to elderly people who are by themselves to bring a bit of love to their day.

Frances:  Zeus, you are a wonderful and positive furry buddy, aren’t you?

Zeus: I try to be, I think that’s why I am here with Mom.  She allows me to kind of make my own path when we are out and about.

Frances:  Is there anything you want to tell mom?

Zeus:  Please tell mom I love her so very much.  She is my perfect person to share this life with.  I love and honor her every day.  There is nothing more Mom needs to do for me that she isn’t already doing. 

Frances:  Thank you, Zeus.  I’ll be talking with you and mom soon.  Bye for now.

Zeus:  Bye and thank you for talking with me.  This isn’t something I’ve been able to do, so this is very cool.

Frances:  My pleasure, Zeus.  Talk to you soon.

 

For the Love of Animals,
Frances

 

Our Furry Kids have Sensitivities

A recent client was concerned about her 2-year-old Golden doodle who didn’t like to eat. 

(Mom says you don’t like to eat, why is that?)  It’s not that I don’t like to eat, I just don’t like how I feel after I eat.  My body reacts to the various foods I am eating. 

Many of our foods are labeled with “natural”, “low carbs”, “lite”, “senior formula” – but what does that really mean?  Just because it says “turkey flavor” – how much turkey is really in it?  I am finding more and more fillers and other additives are being added to not just our foods but also our pet foods. 

Ingredients are listed based on the quantity in the product.  I ask clients to tell me the first five ingredients in the foods, treats and any other items or even prescriptions they are giving their pets.  I use a pendulum for “yes” or “no” answers and tune in to my guidance asking if this ingredient is good for the pet’s body. Once I am given the answer for the known ingredients they are ingesting, I expand to others they may not have realized (i.e.  the egg that is leftover, the bread from your plate, the roasted chicken that smelled so good).  I ask the pendulum for guidance about all possible proteins, vegetables, fillers such as wheat, rice, barley – even CBD, fish oil and extracts.  Our bodies as well as our pets’ bodies have become sensitive to many common foods and ingredients.

Let me know if I can be of help for you or your pet’s digestion or sensitivities.

For the Love of Animals, 

Frances