Don't Worry - Be Happy!

Patsy is a 14-year-old Havanese female dog who seemed very anxious, generally at night, pacing back and forth.  On car rides with Dad to her physical therapy water treatments for her back leg, she gets very anxious, panting heavily and jumping between seats, making it very unsafe for her dad to drive with her in his lap to calm her down.

Here’s part of our conversation: 

Frances:  Mom and Dad asked if I would talk with you, is that ok?

Patsy:  Sure, anything for mom and dad.  I love them very much.  I know I am getting older; my hearing is gone, and my eyesight is blurry.  I feel ok, I suppose, nothing to complain about, but I do know my time is limited.  I don’t want them to do anything special to extend my life and will do my best to go on my own when the time is right.  Not yet, but you know what I mean.  I’m glad I have this opportunity to tell them how much I have loved our life together.  They are the best mom and dad I could have ever had, especially in my later years – the food is so good!  I get special treatment, and I love it! 

Frances:  Thank you, Patsy.  When you pace in the evenings, what are you wanting from your mom and dad?

Patsy:  I get anxious at night because I am afraid that I won’t wake up in the morning. 

Frances:  What makes you think you won’t wake up in the morning? 

Patsy:  I had a dream not long ago and one of the previous dogs came to say I was going to join him soon.  He didn’t say when, so it just makes me nervous. 

Frances:  Ok, so the dog in the dream said you would be joining him – but until you do, how about just settling in with mom and dad and enjoying their company?  It’s not like you can control it so why pace and worry about it?

Patsy:  Hmm, I get what you’re saying.

Frances:  Just remind yourself to enjoy the moment with mom and dad.  If you start to get anxious, just say to yourself, “I am safe with mom and dad.”) 

Patsy:  Ok, I’ll try that, thank you.

Frances:  You’re very welcome, Patsy.  When mom leaves the house, she goes to work and then she comes home.  She always comes back.  She is safe at work and will be home before dinner.  Dad is there to keep you safe and happy; Mom will come back when she gets off work. Does that make sense?

Patsy:  Yes, it does – I just don’t understand why she has to leave, why can’t she work from home?

Frances:  Her work requires her to physically go to the building of her work.

Patsy:  Oh, ok, I guess she has to go then.


Frances:  Yes, she does. Why do you pant so much when you go on car rides?

Patsy:  I never know where we are going to go, if they are taking me someplace and not picking me up, what if they don’t pick me up?

Frances:  I will make sure Mom and Dad tell you where you are going to ease your mind.  You will always be picked up unless your mom and dad leave you overnight for special care or if they go out of town and can’t take you.

Patsy:  Ok, as long as they tell me, that will help.

Frances:  I realized you can’t hear so I will suggest that they talk to you in their thinking voice, like I am doing right now.  You will be able to hear them, but they may not be able to hear what you are telling them, so don’t get upset if they don’t hear you. 

Patsy:  Oh, ok, that sounds good.

Frances: I will talk with Mom and Dad a bit later this morning, by for now.

Patsy:  Bye and thank you for talking with me.

Frances:  My pleasure Patsy.

During the appointment, for an attitude adjustment before the car ride to therapy, I encouraged Dad to show Patsy to be happy and excited about going to play in the water with her therapist.  At night, to calm her down, ask her (in their thinking voice) to join them in sitting quietly and watching TV.

A week later I received an update from Dad:

Re:  Patsy Update

Hi Frances!

I wanted to update you on Patsy and her progress since we met last.

The panting and walking around in the living room at night is much better. She spends more time with us lying down and relaxing while watching TV. There have been a couple of times she has still gone back to her old behavior but much better. We are trying to send her a picture of her lying down and relaxing with us.

The car ride to the physical therapy place last Wednesday was night and day. I told her this would be a fun car ride, and she could lie down on the blanket (it would be OK and safe) or look out the window like you used to do. She didn’t jump back and forth; she was shaking a little bit, but not like before. She looked out the window a couple of times, and she enjoyed it with a smile on her face. Even the therapist noticed a difference in that she wasn’t as nervous.

So, thank you for helping us talk (quiet voice) to Patsy. I know it is a work in progress. We will keep working on it and keep you posted.

Take Care, 

J and K

For the Love of Animals,
Frances